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INFP/ENFP: Do you feel "safe" to openly & freely share your thoughts about Fi here?
At MacGuffin's suggestion, creating a thread:
When I first joined the forum, I was hoping it would be a place where we could ask questions, probe topics, honestly explore the nuances of what interests us about emotions and typology. A place where like-minded people could really go deep, really try to consider each other's POV. I started slow, but got daring over time to ask bigger questions, share my own thoughts, be challenging! What would happen? What would I learn?
And although I have learned much about the enneagram and cognitive functions, experienced a few great personal insights, and met a couple of people I would be honored to call my friends in real life, MOST of what I have learned, especially lately, is that freedom of expression is not welcome here. This forum is not a safe place, not at all.
Let's be honest; first off, who wants to talk about cognitive function theory in your "real world" life? Probably no one. So here, here the forum is supposed to be a place where you can talk about it. But, ironically, it's not - it can be worse than talking to the most disinterested person you can think of in your world - and at least they would be civil and polite, even if bored out of their mind!
There are people on this forum who say things to be deliberately mocking, hurtful and cruel to a degree that they would likely never dare to in "real life". These types of interactions read like "road rage" to me, yet they appear openly tolerated and are an accepted forum practice.
A recent example is the Fi thread that made it to the Graveyard, now split and the remnants inappropriately titled "Fi Gone Bad" ... in a thread about Fi, Fi users weren't "allowed" to discuss, debate, contradict, refine or otherwise engage the material without having to endure harassing, provocative comments throughout the thread.
Personally, when we talk about Fi on the forum, I want to talk about Fi in an Fi way. I don't want to talk about it through the lens of Fe. Every day I operate in society through that lens; I honor it and respect it, but here on the forum, I dare to hope my lens will be respected, contemplated, and even intriguing for others to hear about it.
It's naive of me to hope for that. But I do. Over and over again.
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So do you feel "safe" on the forum, to really share your Fi thoughts? Do you feel what you do share is respected?
Weigh in. INFP & ENFP preferred, but all Fi types welcome to share your experience and feedback here.
And if other types wish to contribute to the discussion, please do, but know this: any mocking, derisive, one-liner, negative or otherwise unhelpful comments will be reported to the mods asap for deletion.
Generally I ignore provocation, but I request this be a zero tolerance thread.
Otherwise, no one will feel safe to post at all, and it seems more voices need to be heard on this topic.
At MacGuffin's suggestion, creating a thread:
EDIT: As a foreword, I am trying to create a space for INFP's & ENFP's to share their thoughts on the topic. Other types are welcome to participate in the discussion, not the poll. And I would love to hear from ISFP's and ESFP's even though this thread is in the NF section.
When I first joined the forum, I was hoping it would be a place where we could ask questions, probe topics, honestly explore the nuances of what interests us about emotions and typology. A place where like-minded people could really go deep, really try to consider each other's POV. I started slow, but got daring over time to ask bigger questions, share my own thoughts, be challenging! What would happen? What would I learn?
And although I have learned much about the enneagram and cognitive functions, experienced a few great personal insights, and met a couple of people I would be honored to call my friends in real life, MOST of what I have learned, especially lately, is that freedom of expression is not welcome here. This forum is not a safe place, not at all.
Let's be honest; first off, who wants to talk about cognitive function theory in your "real world" life? Probably no one. So here, here the forum is supposed to be a place where you can talk about it. But, ironically, it's not - it can be worse than talking to the most disinterested person you can think of in your world - and at least they would be civil and polite, even if bored out of their mind!
There are people on this forum who say things to be deliberately mocking, hurtful and cruel to a degree that they would likely never dare to in "real life". These types of interactions read like "road rage" to me, yet they appear openly tolerated and are an accepted forum practice.
A recent example is the Fi thread that made it to the Graveyard, now split and the remnants inappropriately titled "Fi Gone Bad" ... in a thread about Fi, Fi users weren't "allowed" to discuss, debate, contradict, refine or otherwise engage the material without having to endure harassing, provocative comments throughout the thread.
Personally, when we talk about Fi on the forum, I want to talk about Fi in an Fi way. I don't want to talk about it through the lens of Fe. Every day I operate in society through that lens; I honor it and respect it, but here on the forum, I dare to hope my lens will be respected, contemplated, and even intriguing for others to hear about it.
It's naive of me to hope for that. But I do. Over and over again.
-----
So do you feel "safe" on the forum, to really share your Fi thoughts? Do you feel what you do share is respected?
Weigh in. INFP & ENFP preferred, but all Fi types welcome to share your experience and feedback here.
And if other types wish to contribute to the discussion, please do, but know this: any mocking, derisive, one-liner, negative or otherwise unhelpful comments will be reported to the mods asap for deletion.
Generally I ignore provocation, but I request this be a zero tolerance thread.
Otherwise, no one will feel safe to post at all, and it seems more voices need to be heard on this topic.