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[MBTI General] Nagging fears

izzie

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Do you have these nagging fears that take time to completely go away ?

Such as

  • You may be doing something more wrong with your life which might be a reflection of a past, old you without you being entirely aware of it.
  • Other people may perceive your path better than you yourself
  • You may fall too much into spirals of 'down darkness' first before reaching your real aims
  • You might turn into an unhealthy individual due to your huge, complex emotional capacity

If yes, how are you working to overcome them/how have you conquered them or cope with them?
 

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I think my most nagging of all personal fears is that I'll end up living a normal live without fullfilling my life goal of being remembered for helping to change the world. In terms of overcoming this fear I am planning on finding a way to express my ideas through a large media outlet in order to gain recognition and influence on people in society in order to improve the world.
 

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Nagging fears eh? Lately, I'm constantly afraid that the friends who actually get me will think that I don't like them because I'm not always physically available to them. My mother's side of the family is incredibly ISXJ, so as a child, I've always had to plan my social activities like a week in advance :/. It's probably not the best thing that could've happened to me as an E as it has become a force of habit almost just to stay at home.

There is one really nasty fear I have and that's the fear of going suicidal/turning into a serial killer. I'm very much a moral guy, or at least I try hard to 'do the right thing'. However, Having a strong Ne definitely has its dark sides. When I'm on a bridge for example, I always have the urge to jump off. It's not that I'm suicidal, far from it, I hate suicide as a concept. I'm just intellectually curious. The very possibility of it means it's something I'll explore. There are even uglier examples of this. For example, there has been many cases when I'm cleaning a knife and had the same type of thought of throwing it at someone. I swear, I'm not capable of murder, it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach that I can even have these horrible thoughts. However, the possibility is there and as a Ne dom, I will jump from idea to idea no matter how weird or terrible they are. Yeah there you go. It's kinda personal but whatever. The very dark side of being Ne dom.
 

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Yes. Fear of life. Getting overwhelmed and wanting to just run away and hide and disappear sometimes, like it's too much and I can't do it.
 

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My biggest fear is probably that I will be doing something completely socially inept, but not be aware of it.
 

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There is one really nasty fear I have and that's the fear of going suicidal/turning into a serial killer. I'm very much a moral guy, or at least I try hard to 'do the right thing'. However, Having a strong Ne definitely has its dark sides. When I'm on a bridge for example, I always have the urge to jump off. It's not that I'm suicidal, far from it, I hate suicide as a concept. I'm just intellectually curious. The very possibility of it means it's something I'll explore. There are even uglier examples of this. For example, there has been many cases when I'm cleaning a knife and had the same type of thought of throwing it at someone. I swear, I'm not capable of murder, it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach that I can even have these horrible thoughts. However, the possibility is there and as a Ne dom, I will jump from idea to idea no matter how weird or terrible they are. Yeah there you go. It's kinda personal but whatever. The very dark side of being Ne dom.

All people have unacceptable thoughts sometimes. I have read that the difference between sanity and insanity is that sane people ignore those thoughts, but insane people listen to those thoughts and act on them.

I will say, however, if you are having a lot of these thoughts, that it might be a symptom of clinical depression. A friend of mine suffers from severe depression and has found that she knows when the depression is getting worse because she is suddenly drawn to sad and angry songs and has similar thoughts about things that she would never actually do.
 
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I think my most nagging of all personal fears is that I'll end up living a normal live without fullfilling my life goal of being remembered for helping to change the world. In terms of overcoming this fear I am planning on finding a way to express my ideas through a large media outlet in order to gain recognition and influence on people in society in order to improve the world.

I am working on the exact same problem atm. Only plan I have is to find a job that pays good money like a fireman or train conductor. (both can make 50-70k in this area) Then I am thinking of building a small home on wheels to pull behind a truck while traveling and learning about the people around me. Last, the writing of a book with everything I have learned. I know I don't know you but you sound like a great traveling companion. (Note my ambiguous offer of teamwork without actually having to BE an active character in my own life.)
 

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Youe plan seems both interesting and wonderful, I wish you good fortunes on such a journey and hope you can overcome the same fear that haunts me. I really sound like a great traveling companion? :)
 

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All people have unacceptable thoughts sometimes. I have read that the difference between sanity and insanity is that sane people ignore those thoughts, but insane people listen to those thoughts and act on them.

I will say, however, if you are having a lot of these thoughts, that it might be a symptom of clinical depression. A friend of mine suffers from severe depression and has found that she knows when the depression is getting worse because she is suddenly drawn to sad and angry songs and has similar thoughts about things that she would never actually do.

:hug:

Thanks. I'm not clinically depressed, though I've been there before and the underlying problems haven't completely gone away. These thoughts only show their head once a while, not even close for me to consider that I might need some help. Maybe if I got a little bit more action I would get less of these thoughts. For the sake of humanity I urge everyone to make a little 'donation', details below. :D
 
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Youe plan seems both interesting and wonderful, I wish you good fortunes on such a journey and hope you can overcome the same fear that haunts me. I really sound like a great traveling companion? :)

Of all the INFP variants we seem to be on a similar wavelength. It would be like traveling with a reaffirming individual, of course, that could be a bad thing too. I could see being caught up in a dream. Course, that is what I am planning right now anyway.
 

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I think my most nagging of all personal fears is that I'll end up living a normal live without fullfilling my life goal of being remembered for helping to change the world. In terms of overcoming this fear I am planning on finding a way to express my ideas through a large media outlet in order to gain recognition and influence on people in society in order to improve the world.

i have this fear too. and maybe not so much even being remembered as being influential. i used to think i wanted to be remembered but recently i have just realized that i want to have a big impact. not that fame or legacy wouldn't be great though, lol. i need to find what my passion is though, i guess. that's hard for me. i like so many things and can see myself in so many different avenues. how to know which one is the one i should take?

and also, that i will never do things that are extraordinary. i shouldn't worry so much, i already have done some really crazy and wonderful things, but maybe they're part and parcel to this fear/desire. sides of the coin, i guess.
 

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There is one really nasty fear I have and that's the fear of going suicidal/turning into a serial killer. I'm very much a moral guy, or at least I try hard to 'do the right thing'. However, Having a strong Ne definitely has its dark sides. When I'm on a bridge for example, I always have the urge to jump off. It's not that I'm suicidal, far from it, I hate suicide as a concept. I'm just intellectually curious. The very possibility of it means it's something I'll explore. There are even uglier examples of this. For example, there has been many cases when I'm cleaning a knife and had the same type of thought of throwing it at someone. I swear, I'm not capable of murder, it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach that I can even have these horrible thoughts. However, the possibility is there and as a Ne dom, I will jump from idea to idea no matter how weird or terrible they are. Yeah there you go. It's kinda personal but whatever. The very dark side of being Ne dom.
I totally relate. In your bridge example, I am the same way, except I don't think I would call it an urge to jump off. I picture myself jumping off and I think about what it would be like to jump off, but I don't know that I actually have an urge to do it. All kind of similar things like that. Sometimes darker more disturbing stuff too if the thought involves another person. :( It is like I never will do anything to knowingly hurt myself or anyone else, but I can't stop my brain from acknowledging that it is possible to do so. :doh:
 

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I have a nagging fear that everything has gone too well for me in life and something terrible is going to eventually happen to even it out. I have had this thought off and on for about 10 years.
 
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