Vasilisa
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When she texts you, DO NOT tell her you're doing "good" or "ok". Tell her that you are devastated, distraught, near suicide, a complete mess. You love her desperately, need her, must have her! You're a Thinker, so you probably believe this is ridiculously "over the top". But if you will just do it, even if you feel awkward or silly, she will be impressed. At any rate...good news, your INFJ still loves you. You haven't lost...quit thinking, drinking and brooding...and go get her!
I respectfully disagree. It is quite likely she will feel resentful that she is being denied her time to process. You would be denying her request which likely doesn't come easy, but rather from deep feelings that she needs to reconcile. She may come out of obligation, but resentment like that poisons a relationship. She won't be able to see your love as non-manipulative.
ENTPs do not want to be trapped, surely then one can recognize how distasteful it would be to try to trap a kindhearted woman this way.
There are other ways to make a grand gesture, this is manipulation, though. There are ways to speak from the heart that are not emotional blackmail.
Tell her that you are devastated, distraught, near suicide, a complete mess.
Don't do this. If you really feel this way, please seek some professional help.