ENFPs, how long has it taken you to get over a significant other in the past?
I think it just depends on who it is.
But I would say it's really hard for me to get over them =X
Do you think it's true that you only truly get over someone once you fall in love again?
Not for me. I'd still like the other person at the same time.. =/ always thinking, "Maybe HE's the one and maybe I'm making a mistake." But I get over it once I think about all the reasons why he's definitely -not- the one.
Are you still friends with your exes?
No. I tried but I only ended up flirting with them or having awkward conversations.. and they're never the ones to initiate conversation so I don't try to talk to my exs anymore.
Have you ever had the chance to meet new people (romantically) months after the breakup and still felt it was wrong to take things forward because your heart still ached? When did it stop?
I always dated the person I liked anyway. I did feel it was wrong because I'd still think about the other person, but I just dwell on things too much, especially "what could have been." Of course, I'm only getting these answers from my last experience with my ex. It's hard to get over someone when one day they just stop all contact with you over something you did, without a chance to explain yourself or at least say goodbye or something. Basically.. he wanted to go out with me -a lot- and I kept telling him I'd think about it, because I did like him, but i was really with someone else. he was always going after other girls and he would insult me and threaten me, so I didn't feel bad since he was such a jerk to me. I didn't know who to choose. Somehow he found out I was with someone else.. Damn INTJs.. and stopped talking to me. Of course, I could have kept calling him in the following weeks or something, but I didn't wanna be his "puppy dog" anymore. I was done with begging for him & it's not fair that he did so much bad stuff & i always forgave him, and then when I do something even slightly bad, he hates me and that's that. Even after I was "done" with him, I would still think about him all the time. Constantly! And my F part of me felt soo in love with him but my T part was all like "forget him he did this, and this, and that too, so he obviously doesn't care about me." Then I just got over him because my boyfriend now is so much nicer & also, not seeing him or talking to him helped a lot too. I hope this helped you understand what an ENFPs brain thinks through a breakup & getting over someone ^_^ or at least mine.
especially the bolded part.
