• You are currently viewing our forum as a guest, which gives you limited access to view most discussions and access our other features. By joining our free community, you will have access to additional post topics, communicate privately with other members (PM), view blogs, respond to polls, upload content, and access many other special features. Registration is fast, simple and absolutely free, so please join our community today! Just click here to register. You should turn your Ad Blocker off for this site or certain features may not work properly. If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please contact us by clicking here.

[NF] is it only the NF who are very picky about job/career ?

niki

New member
Joined
Sep 16, 2007
Messages
210
MBTI Type
INFP
it seems to me that the NF are more picky about choosing job/career, since they are more Idealists than pragmatist & rationalistic.
hence, the job-hopping constantly ?
or even got bored if stays in one job?

and it seems to me that ONLY the NF who kept spouting the word "PASSION, in what we do!" , that what otherwise might be misunderstood as 'spoiled, childish' by those more "normal" rational mainstream folks.
'cuz for most normal folks, BIG Money >>>>>> Passion.

even when running a business, an "NF" , it seems, can't just go abruptly or have this quick-opportunistic thinking to take ANY business to run!
they have to evaluate the business , NOT ONLY in terms of if it would make big money/profits or not, but also: if they can be PASSIONATE / ENJOY at running it or not.

is this true?
can any NF relate in this one?
could u possibly point-out what's any other reasons for this "picky" behavior (besides what I've mentioned above) ?

and also,
don't u guys think that this kind of perspective/attitude is what makes us sometimes soo 'difficult' to get a suitable job/career , or business?
as compared to any more rational, logical folks?
at least I do personally find it VERY difficult.
i mean, i can't just simply like/love running my current furniture-factory family-business right now! i don't know why (don't ask me why), but I just can't ! (i would guess this is due to my NF nature, always looking for what I'll be really passionate/enjoy at doing! rather than only thinking 'Big-money/profits" )
 

alcea rosea

New member
Joined
Nov 11, 2007
Messages
3,658
MBTI Type
ENFP
Enneagram
7w6
it seems to me that the NF are more picky about choosing job/career, since they are more Idealists than pragmatist & rationalistic.
hence, the job-hopping constantly ?
or even got bored if stays in one job?

I didn't know what I wanted to study so I chose economics. So, I wasn't too picky. I have also been working in a same company for over 10 years. ;) So I might be an exception even if I dream of going back to school to study something more meaningful. ;)
 

nightning

ish red no longer *sad*
Joined
Apr 23, 2007
Messages
3,741
MBTI Type
INfj
I wish I can give you a counter example... but I would like work that I enjoyed doing over a junk load of money. Obviously I'm a darn NF. Right now I seriously have it in my head to finish my silly masters as soon as possible then switch over to trying something completely different.

Besides all that you've mention... a theme that runs in my head is the need to utilize or at least explore potentials.
 

OctaviaCaesar

New member
Joined
Oct 18, 2007
Messages
211
MBTI Type
INFJ
Hah. I have had mostly part time seasonal jobs for the last few years as I have been in college. I have declared three different majors so far, and I really worry about ever being happy in school or in THE REAL WORLD out there with my 9-5 jobs. My ISTJ father thinks I need to grow up, suck it up, and be a man!
 

Valiant

Courage is immortality
Joined
Jul 7, 2007
Messages
3,895
MBTI Type
ENTJ
Enneagram
8w7
Instinctual Variant
sx/so
No, they're not the only ones. I am VERY picky and i'm neither N nor F.
But I stick with tech specialist until i've put away a small fortune, then i'll study something else, probably some kind of public relations.

But my dream is to kill people in exotic places for a living. :) That is real ESTP romance :smile:
 

quietgirl

New member
Joined
Sep 29, 2007
Messages
401
MBTI Type
INFJ
I doubt it's limited to NF's, but I think we do have the tendency to be picky.

Personally, I struggle in jobs where I don't feel I have a purpose. Unfortunately, you don't have a purpose in most jobs. haha.

I'm in the middle of a career change to teaching. Hopefully I can stick to that one...
 

GZA

Resident Snot-Nose
Joined
Aug 13, 2007
Messages
1,771
MBTI Type
infp
I'm very picky about the kind of work and activities I do. Like other people said, I really want to do something I value and find rewarding. I'm currently in high school, so a solid 99% of work is value and reward-free. I struggle a lot with some work because its a large drain to put a lot of work into something you don't value that ultimately has no reward (unless you consider not failing and being shunned by your family a reward). My parents are ESTJ and ISFJ, so they value hard work for the sake of work itself, so its hard to get the message to them that I need work I value, and they sometimes don't take it seriously.

I don't know what kind of job I could take where I would actually do a good job and get a lot of value out of it. I really want to be a street performer in the meantime :D
 

Athenian200

Protocol Droid
Joined
Jul 1, 2007
Messages
8,828
MBTI Type
INFJ
Enneagram
4w5
That's odd... I think I would try to do any job that wasn't too strenuous and payed enough for me to get by (although I'd prefer one that was in a field I was interested in). I hope that doesn't mean I'm not an NF?
 

Ghost of the dead horse

filling some space
Joined
Sep 7, 2007
Messages
3,553
MBTI Type
ENTJ
I've delayed getting on a good track in career by demanding too good fit.. I've held jobs to such levels of significance that wasn't really good at all. Actually, I still think that minor changes in my course structures in uni mean the world.. that a person who studies digital media will be completely another person than one who studies programming.. I'm trying to envision what it will be like in my probable workplace (or the work I'm able to secure for myself) whether I study this or that.. I know what school I'm going to graduate from, and it only took 11 years. Now add few years for graduation :D

I think I'm becoming more of a pragmatist and less of a idealist concerning my career choices .. I am not getting any less of a job, just that I'm considering that I could choose from a great variety of jobs.. for some jobs, I would have to prepare more than for others, some jobs I can practically rule off.. but I think I've finally accepted that practical reality will have some part in determining what I'll do.

If I choose a job, I will learn some specific things related to that job, something that I would not learn in another job. I can't be 100% sure that I'll get some exactly specific job, like a game programmer who uses exactly this and that programming language in a company who's profit is this and that, their games reaches so and so wide an audience, etc.. tho I've been silly enough to wish some exact scenario for myself.

There's so much variables that I should rather learn as I go, rather than decide early and be disillusioned. One of the greatest job in the world for me, I thought, was to design new microprocessors for Intel. It is probably still extremely innovative work and presents the enormous challenge I want.. it's one of the hardest engineering tasks there is for a computer scientist, if not the hardest. Still, now the most interesting developments in the industry are not in that area, but rather in software and the development of algorithms.

I've thought a lot about how I would feel in some job.. what kind of personalities is there.. well, procrastination hasn't been good to me, glad I'm over it.
 

crandolph

New member
Joined
Jan 4, 2008
Messages
20
MBTI Type
INFJ
Santtu, you will get there. Don't know if this will help or not, but this is how I've tended to be over the course of my life -- yes, passion is central, but I have often made myself embrace and get passionate about the choices that are in front of me instead of reaching for something not available. Does this make any sense? I did this with grad school -- yes! UCLA will be perfect! I am so in love with the diversity and other important things UCLA will offer me! WHAT? We have to move to DC? (brief period of mourning) GEORGETOWN is the only place for me!! the halls of power just down the street! the inventive curriculum! Since then, I have gone through a similar process with my career trajectory. It's not about failing to be discriminatory about what you choose to do, but about finding the potential source of passion in whatever it is (and, for some, maybe the passion is outside the workplace and the function of the job is to pay the bills while you pursue your passion, which is where I'm starting to feel now that I've got a kid). You seem to be stuck at the deciding point. Consider picking one, and then embracing it. (And mourn what you said no to if you have to -- that can be a wonderful process too, if you can get to closure.)

Having written all that...I think your struggles may be less a part of NF, and maybe more a P thing?
 

wedekit

New member
Joined
Nov 10, 2007
Messages
694
MBTI Type
INFJ
Well, I don't know if it belongs strictly to the NF or not, but in my case I chose Psychology as a career. Unfortunately there is a hundred different ways I could go with that for grad school and right now I'm choosing to be a University Teacher and Researcher. But I do feel like maybe I will be holding myself back somehow. I wont have anything to show for myself since my students will leave at the end of the semester. I dunno.
 
Top