Sunny Ghost
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Okay, so I'm trying to figure out two friends of mine. For a long time, I thought my female friend (whom I'll call D) was an INFJ, while I thought my male friend (whom I'll call J) was an INFP. I think I may have misunderstood these two types and that it's actually switched. I'm quite positive both are INFx.
So D enjoys socializing, and especially being there for friends in need. She's a bit of a pushover and really dislikes confrontations. However, she'll occasionally have these random bursts of anger and then goes back to "normal" again. She carries a lot of emotional baggage around with her. Another friend last night described her as thinking she owned the monopoly on pain and that no one else's experiences or tragedies could come anywhere close. I slightly agreed. Also, she wants very badly to help people out and has done hospice work. But also carries around the mentality that nothing is ever good enough, and she finds it impossible to finish out school to actually be a nurse or anything further. She is somewhat of an alcoholic and a bit of a chaotic mess. Her apartment is always always always terrifyingly messy. She holds a lot of resentment towards those who have harmed her in some way, namely her father who passed away & also for all of her ex boyfriends. She is now trying to be a better Christian, but hasn't made any real changes in her life. I suppose the reason I thought she was an INFJ, was because I felt like she was incredibly in tune with people around her. Great intuition for that sort of thing, which I thought was characteristic of her being a J. She has definitely saved me in social situations, where I would be uncomfortable for one reason or another, and she would lead the conversation in a light hearted manner to take attention away from me.
My friend, J, is very artistic and lives very much like a hermit. He's incredibly reclusive. When he does make friends, it typically involves a project of some sort. He's very project oriented. He isn't the cleanest as far as his living space goes, however, he becomes extremely stressed out with trying to complete projects before certain deadlines and will be incredibly hard on himself if he doesn't follow through. He somehow tested as an INFP, but I'm thinking this must be inaccurate. He's less into philosophy & symbolism than me (and is actually quite annoyed with those that talk about philosophy), however, when he reads the news or comes across random things in nature he takes those things to entirely different meanings. He follows signs, and often talks about how doom is impending.
So D enjoys socializing, and especially being there for friends in need. She's a bit of a pushover and really dislikes confrontations. However, she'll occasionally have these random bursts of anger and then goes back to "normal" again. She carries a lot of emotional baggage around with her. Another friend last night described her as thinking she owned the monopoly on pain and that no one else's experiences or tragedies could come anywhere close. I slightly agreed. Also, she wants very badly to help people out and has done hospice work. But also carries around the mentality that nothing is ever good enough, and she finds it impossible to finish out school to actually be a nurse or anything further. She is somewhat of an alcoholic and a bit of a chaotic mess. Her apartment is always always always terrifyingly messy. She holds a lot of resentment towards those who have harmed her in some way, namely her father who passed away & also for all of her ex boyfriends. She is now trying to be a better Christian, but hasn't made any real changes in her life. I suppose the reason I thought she was an INFJ, was because I felt like she was incredibly in tune with people around her. Great intuition for that sort of thing, which I thought was characteristic of her being a J. She has definitely saved me in social situations, where I would be uncomfortable for one reason or another, and she would lead the conversation in a light hearted manner to take attention away from me.
My friend, J, is very artistic and lives very much like a hermit. He's incredibly reclusive. When he does make friends, it typically involves a project of some sort. He's very project oriented. He isn't the cleanest as far as his living space goes, however, he becomes extremely stressed out with trying to complete projects before certain deadlines and will be incredibly hard on himself if he doesn't follow through. He somehow tested as an INFP, but I'm thinking this must be inaccurate. He's less into philosophy & symbolism than me (and is actually quite annoyed with those that talk about philosophy), however, when he reads the news or comes across random things in nature he takes those things to entirely different meanings. He follows signs, and often talks about how doom is impending.
, but it only happens around close family.
I now understand the differences more.
