[NF] The NF Females' List of Deal Breakers

[Sparrow]

Well IMO they're a bit unrealistic and I find it to be a turnoff. Nobody has to agree with me, I didn't mean to offend anyone, it's just what I think about it. Now you can all calm down and go back to being self-absorbed.

Do you not have any deal breakers? You gotta have some!

 

[TopherRed]

MUST HAVES
Me.
KINDA WANTS
More of Me.
KILLJOYS
NOT Me.
DEALBREAKERS
No more Me.

 

[prplchknz]

MUST HAVES
Me.
KINDA WANTS
More of Me.
KILLJOYS
NOT Me.
DEALBREAKERS
No more Me.

so you want to clone yourself and give your clone a sex change?

 

[Esoteric Wench]

MUST HAVES
Me.
KINDA WANTS
More of Me.
KILLJOYS
NOT Me.
DEALBREAKERS
No more Me.

I like a confident man.

 

[Sparrow]

If you dont have any deal breakers I can hook you up with a crack whore.

 

[TopherRed]

Come here sockpuppet, let's make some fuzz! :yim_rolling_on_the_

 

[Thalassa]

If you dont have any deal breakers I can hook you up with a crack whore.

I don't think he (or I or chknz) said we didn't have any standards at all...just expressed the view that these lists seem excessively long, idealistic, and/or picky.

Touchy, touchy.

 

[TopherRed]

If you dont have any deal breakers I can hook you up with a crack whore.

No thanks, my dear, I am only cracked in the head.

 

[prplchknz]

I don't think he (or I or chknz) said we didn't have any standards at all...just expressed the view that these lists seem excessively long, idealistic, and/or picky.

Touchy, touchy.

how good's the crack?

 

[You]

From the sound of things, I wouldn't make it with any of you girls.

 

[William K]

Is that a uniqueness of the INFP male? Is it the only type where the list would look the same regardless of gender?

The male version of this thread is here
http://www.typologycentral.com/forums/nf-idyllic/31858-nf-males-list-deal-breakers-rip-off.html

Feel free to join

 

[prplchknz]

From the sound of things, I wouldn't make it with any of you girls.

see? see? point proven once again.

 

[You]

And worst of all I fit those Must Haves on all list. Each, and every one. Then comes the Deal Breakers and there is one that always trip me up. Is Porn really that bad? Ok. I watch it occasionally. Why not watch it with me. It could be fun. Adventurious, right?

Blaah....I think I'm going to have to give this porn thing up.

1. Must Haves
- Intelligent/Likes to Think
- Humor/Wittiness/Sarcasm
- Love of children/animals
- Integrity/High Personal Responsibility and Self-Control
- Interesting/Creative/Innovative
- Passionate about something
- Must have Principles (of some kind)
- Calm and steady

3. Deal Breakers
- Complete slob
- Smoker
- More than occasional recreational drug user
- Republican
- Religious
- Gambler
- Lack of sympathy/empathy/understanding
- Obesity
- Abusive
- Bad temper
- Cold
- Irresponsible/Reckless
- Commitment = Scary
- Over emotional/Over sentimental
- Over Ten Years Older
- Racist

Uhm. That's it. I think. Though I don't deny I am capable of being swept off my list by passion. And that's not for dating/fun, that's my Forever List. Muahaha.

Must haves

-A sense of humor
-a job
-open mindedness
-Someone who gives me my space.
-Oh, and I like nice hands.


Deal Breakers
-Someone who always wears running shoes/sneakers.
-Someone who is an alcoholic/drug addict.
-Someone who is always sentimental and like, lovey dovey.
-Someone who needs to hang out all the time.

These are the only two girls I've read that I could ever have a chance with.

 

[OrangeAppled]

My point exactly. Yours and Chicknz's stances seem quite ironic.


And that's quite stereotypical of you to equate that to NFdom. It's a minority. It doesn't tend to get heard as much out there. Of course their opinions are going to seem anti-social to a degree.

NFP hate on this board has become so trite it's almost as cliche as SJ hate. It's just a bandwagon to jump on, and NFPs are convenient targets. It reeks of mob mentality.

On a related note, I get the feeling that people are only okay with the fluffy, sweet, apologetic, self-deprecating, doormat, non-threatening, Disney character portrait of the NFP, but we better not have opinions or backbone, because then we're just moralistic or too idealistic or presumptuous, and blah blah blah. This thread has NF women asserting opinions, and that's a no-no.

Particularly with INFPs, we're only tolerated so long as we're obsequious in our interactions, apologizing for our mere existence. I won't make any apologies for having a brain and a spine.

 

[Liesl]

NFP hate on this board has become so trite it's almost as cliche as SJ hate. It's just a bandwagon to jump on, and NFPs are convenient targets. It reeks of mob mentality.

On a related note, I get the feeling that people are only okay with the fluffy, sweet, apologetic, self-deprecating, doormat, non-threatening, Disney character portrait of the NFP, but we better not have opinions or backbone, because then we're just moralistic or too idealistic or presumptuous, and blah blah blah. This thread has NF women asserting opinions, and that's a no-no.

Particularly with INFPs, we're only tolerated so long as we're obsequious in our interactions, apologizing for our mere existence. I won't make any apologies for having a brain and a spine.

OrangeAppled, I could not agree more with every word, every sentiment you've expressed here. I will never apologize for being an NFP with an opinion and a backbone, and neither should you.

 

[Esoteric Wench]

I get the feeling that people are only okay with the fluffy, sweet, apologetic, self-deprecating, doormat, non-threatening, Disney character portrait of the NFP, but we better not have opinions or backbone, because then we're just moralistic or too idealistic or presumptuous, and blah blah blah. This thread has NF women asserting opinions, and that's a no-no.

...we're only tolerated so long as we're obsequious in our interactions, apologizing for our mere existence. I won't make any apologies for having a brain and a spine.

^^^^^^
+1000.

 

[prplchknz]

you're missing the whole point if you really think all of this is about NF hate, it's about hating NFs when they're being too idealistic with they're heads so far up their own asses to realize they're being too idealistic.

 

[Esoteric Wench]

Come here sockpuppet, let's make some fuzz! :yim_rolling_on_the_

Sir, I think you're quite fuzzy enough already.

 

[Esoteric Wench]

you're missing the whole point if you really think all of this is about NF hate, it's about hating NFs when they're being too idealistic with they're heads so far up their own asses to realize they're being too idealistic.

What is wrong with being idealistic? Where is this magical line when you cross over to become too idealistic? And if these lists aren't meant to be taken literally, does it really matter if they are idealistic or not?

I'd say your post illustrates the point I was trying to make earlier about how I see this as a classic S / N miscommunication.

The NFs are dismayed that the Ss are getting so upset over a frolic. The Ss think the Ns are so up in the clouds that they aren't being realistic... and this up in the clouds (aka holier than thou / aka stuck up / aka not in touch reality) aspect of NF behavior really chaps their S fannies.

OK. So what. Seems like no big deal to me if you chalk it up to S/N differences.

Why can't we all agree that Ss and Ns see things differently and then choose to see the best in the other's way of seeing the world. You Ss could use a little more idealism. We Ns could use a little more Ss grounding in reality. Bickering over these foundational differences between the N and S perspective is both pointless and fruitless.

Seems like the only real faux pas is to be too extreme in either the S or N direction.

 

[prplchknz]

their's nothing wrong with being idealistic except when it's taken to an extreme like people in this thread are doing. I never said their was anything wrong with being idealistic.BTW I'm INFP, I do not identify with any other type.You just don't want me to be an NF because I don't agree with something. which is a pretty fucked reason IMO