[MBTI General] Hug? Am I really this sad?

[Thinkerninja]

I currently have this strange desire (in a platonic-love-ish-way) to go around hugging all my best friends, yet I dont because it would be too strange and sudden/spontaneous and probably uncomfortable. I hardly ever hug people. I feel kind of sad, aaah why is this? I also don't generally like initiating hugs because I don't really know 'how to'? Or just because of the awkwardness. I'm also afraid that friends would just reject my hug (it does hurt)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it depression? Or am I just 'poorly' developing my auxillary Fi? AAahhh ..

Hug?

 

[Phantonym]

Maybe you're just feeling a bit lonely lately. It's not necessarily depression. Desire for physical closeness, even if it is platonic, can also be a desire for security and connection to people.

 

[Malkavia]

I currently have this strange desire (in a platonic-love-ish-way) to go around hugging all my best friends, yet I dont because it would be too strange and sudden/spontaneous and probably uncomfortable. I hardly ever hug people. I feel kind of sad, aaah why is this? I also don't generally like initiating hugs because I don't really know 'how to'? Or just because of the awkwardness. I'm also afraid that friends would just reject my hug (it does hurt)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it depression? Or am I just 'poorly' developing my auxillary Fi? AAahhh ..

Hug?

I know how you feel. I get random urges to hug my close friends but normally dont because it would be too awkward.

It passes.

 

[Skyward]

Same for me, dawg.

I say just find an excuse to hug them and show them you appreciate them. Just because you're an FP doesn't mean you can't use Fe

They'll appreciate it. Unless, like, you're a biker and have lots of biker friends

 

[Moiety]

I never felt the urge to hug ANYONE unless I shared a reaaally deep connection with them.

I don't hug my mom, my dad, my sisters or my brother. I don't hug my friends. And ya know what? I'm quite fine with it


I kinda put it next to kissing and sex. It's something I value in a romantic relationship...but not really outside of it. It's too intimate.

 

[Ming]

I find it really awkward to give hugs. I don't know why! When someone hugs me, I feel uncomfortable. I start inwardly thinking and starting to feel insecure.

I don't give hugs out..I don't think I've actually given a real one in real life. EVER! Not that I can remember in these teenage years..

Homosexuality kinda played a big part...Maybe?

Arrgh I'm such an unlovable person !

 

[Thinkerninja]

Thanks guys! I'm glad I'm not the only one who wants hugs - loveee is so great and makes you get that fluffy feeling inside. (did that make sense?)

Haha @Sytpg, who I consider to be one of my closest friends is an ISTJ-I would love to hug her but oh my it would be very awkward and I would presume probably uncomfortable for her.

 

[Betty Blue]

Big I'm a fairly tactile person, i understand.

 

[sculpting]

oh, this is weird. I get what you are saying though. Typically I dont like to have other people touch me at all. But sometimes I get in this crazy ass mode where I really want to hug certain people.

I then go hug my ENTP friend. MUHUHUHAHAHHGAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It makes her cringe.

I hug INTJs too and will give ISTJs cute little arm hugs.

 

[Dahlila]

Free hugs shirts help

 

[CzeCze]

I currently have this strange desire (in a platonic-love-ish-way) to go around hugging all my best friends, yet I dont because it would be too strange and sudden/spontaneous and probably uncomfortable. I hardly ever hug people. I feel kind of sad, aaah why is this? I also don't generally like initiating hugs because I don't really know 'how to'? Or just because of the awkwardness. I'm also afraid that friends would just reject my hug (it does hurt)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it depression? Or am I just 'poorly' developing my auxillary Fi? AAahhh ..

Hug?

Oh man, that sounds soooo ENFP. I think ENFPs can get surprisingly shy about things that hit on Fi - like the fear of rejection, etc. I am super touchy feely with people I date (or have been dating a while), children...small furry animals...lol. I'm not kidding. And I'm touchy feely with friends who are likewise touchy feely and I know they do not mind.

Fi makes motivates you out of the blue sometimes to do something like hug someone or start doing a jig of happiness in the street. Overthinking it is what causes the awkwardness.

I think as you mature/progress whatever it is you need to mature/progress, you get a lot more comfortable in your skin and act more 'naturally'. Which includes hugging people when you feel like it.

 

[kiddykat]

I LOVE hugs

Even as a grown adult, sometimes when I see my family members, I still run up to them and hug them every time I see them, not just in a loose hugs kinda way, but an "embrace me" please, hold me, hug? Please? Hug meeh? Cuddle? Next to me? Now? lol

I can really get all snuggly with people I have close bonds with.

I don't like strangers touching me though. Especially when I'm on a date? It's like, "getch ur paws off me!"

 

[Glycerine]

Maybe it's a good stress-reliever for you?

 

[Vasilisa]

If you were to approach your friends and tell them with perfect sincerity that you need a hug, would they really deny you?

 

[uumlau]

I currently have this strange desire (in a platonic-love-ish-way) to go around hugging all my best friends, yet I dont because it would be too strange and sudden/spontaneous and probably uncomfortable. I hardly ever hug people. I feel kind of sad, aaah why is this? I also don't generally like initiating hugs because I don't really know 'how to'? Or just because of the awkwardness. I'm also afraid that friends would just reject my hug (it does hurt)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it depression? Or am I just 'poorly' developing my auxillary Fi? AAahhh ..

Hug?

Find friends who like to hug.

Or, even better, hug your friends, even awkwardly. Just say, "Hi," and give 'em a hug as you do so. If you just do so, it becomes "normal," because you deem it so.

I think it's very much a cultural thing. I know people who hug everyone, because that's just how they grew up, and others who don't, for similar reasons. Since I started dancing, I've noticed that people are way more huggy than usual. The "touch barrier" has already been broken by the dancing. I'll even warn someone that they don't have to hug me, I'm already rather sweaty having danced a lot ... and they'll hug me anyway!

 

[Aleksei]

I currently have this strange desire (in a platonic-love-ish-way) to go around hugging all my best friends, yet I dont because it would be too strange and sudden/spontaneous and probably uncomfortable. I hardly ever hug people. I feel kind of sad, aaah why is this? I also don't generally like initiating hugs because I don't really know 'how to'? Or just because of the awkwardness. I'm also afraid that friends would just reject my hug (it does hurt)

Does anyone know why this is? Is it depression? Or am I just 'poorly' developing my auxillary Fi? AAahhh ..

Hug?

Aww I'll give you a hug.

 

[21%]

Awwww

 

[Virtual ghost]

Hmm 9 out of 16 replies have hug smiliy. (just saying)

 

[yvonne]

Hmm 9 out of 16 replies have hug smiliy. (just saying)

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