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[Fi] Fi users

cafe

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The first time my now-husband told me he loved me I was totally caught like a deer in the headlights. I mean, I thought I loved him, but we really barely knew each other. It was very awkward, but I finally said "ditto." And you know what? Since he really did love me, he stuck around until I could say it with absolute certainty.

I would say it comes down to maturity, but my husband was only 20 when we had our little experience.
 

OrangeAppled

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It's cute that an INTP is watching crappy TV and blaming it on NFPs. <3

Really.... :D

I will be the first to admit that I am reserved in expressing my feelings at times....however, if a man told me he loved me & I returned the feeling, then I would feel safe enough to express that. It would be harder for me to express it first though.

If I was unsure, then I would state that & let him know that I just needed time. I don't expect someone to read my mind.

I agree that it seems this woman was unsure, then realized later she did care for him, & now she wants to rewrite the past. I don't see how this connects to Fi though.
 

Chaolioe

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Apr 13, 2010
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i don't believe her. i think she realized after he left how she felt and it was too late.
I absolutely agree with this statement. He left and her hurt made her reflect and pretty much think "Oh shit, that was love... I fucked up."

ON the other hand.. love is a hard word to say. I think too often it gets thrown around and isn't meant.
I've had someone say they love me within the first day of a relationship, I kindly told them that I couldn't say it back, but that they should wait because it should come.

Two weeks in, he admitted it hurt him too much for the love to be unrequited, I had to figure myself out.
I spent a few hours looking up definitions of love and scribbling key-points on my arm until I realized I did love him.

It wasn't until months later I realized I was IN LOVE. They are different.

Maybe the girl in the show loved him, but wasn't in love so she didn't want to say it.
I tell my friends I love them constantly (a hurtful thing for my boyfriend since it took me a while to say it back to him), but I say it to them because I know they don't desire me to be IN LOVE with them, and they understand that my words do not mean I am in love but rather that I care extra deeply about them.

I feel it's a superbly important difference that many people neglect.
 
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