[MBTI General] Fs Bond Quickly!

[Lux]

I bond with some people quickly, it is rare but amazing when it happens. With others the bond takes more time. Both can be strong bonds for me. Regarding the people I bond with quickly, I tend to have more of an initial connection with and the bond seems more intense and usually stronger. But it is situational as well.

 

[William K]

This thread's title reminds me of a Super Glue advertisment

 

[sculpting]

Even in person, several of my closest friends developed through writing. Probably why most of my closest friends are long-distance now. We met in person & began a friendship in the usual way, but when they moved we got closer through letter/email communication.

Its funny. Most of my close irl friends are entps-once we part ways we dont stay in touch-but if we meet up after years, we are back to laughing like crazy. I dont trust anyone with my emotions typically, so it is real weird here as I do share emtotions-which is sharing my core self-my soul I guess?

i find this bit hard, because i start to care about people very quickly, if they share their feelings with me. i have to be careful with my fi, though... because it gets a bit difficult, if you find yourself in it too deep.

Yeah. If you make me talk about my emotions by asking questions about them-I feel those emotions. To describe them is to feel them-thus I will begin to bond with you just via sharing. It's part of the reason I started the "what are you feeling" thread. I need to understand how to openly share emotions-very scary for an enfp for some reason. I also need to be able to do so and not develop deep bonds with those I am sharing with-which is actually making me tear up right now. Just the thought of sharing the emotion, with a generic "other human", no person in particular, makes me emo. ewwwww......

I would love advise and guidance on how to handle this better.

 

[yvonne]

yeah... it's a bit hard, because you pick up emotions and take them to your heart... even here it's not just words. i thought it would be easier here, as we don't know each other, but it isn't, lol. the "what are you feeling" thread is great! it's easier there, i think. it still makes me feel like i am sharing an emotion, but it's generic enough that it's easier.

it's not a wish not to bond, it's just that i can't keep bonding deeply with people, because then i'd miss them and think about them all the time and i can't miss them, because they're on the internet, lol.

 

[Little Linguist]

I find it quite easy to connect with people now, but it was not always the case. It has been more of a learned trait for me; however, now it comes so naturally that I do not even think about it.

One interesting aspect of this ability is that it happens much more easily and naturally in real life than online. When I teach, when I am out and about, I find people open up to me much more than online.