[ENFJ] How to tease an enfj

[thehigher]

I want to know how to tease an enfj to their wits end. How do I keep you guys on your toes? What will entice you? What paradoxes do you take part in? What drives you nuts....the stuff you wish didn't.

 

[thehigher]

anybody?

 

[Glycerine]

ENFJs like quick-witted banter which Ne users tend to be good at. Say "somewhat shocking but not overly tasteless" or random things that come to your head. The ENFJ might be like "wha...? wow" but it is usually out of amusement unless she acts completely offended. One thing to note, don't try too hard. Maybe it's just me but I like genuine people and unnatural people grate me. Just use your natural quirky INFP charm and you will be golden.

 

[OrangeAppled]

^ That's so true. They like it subtly naughty, not vulgar. Cleverness is key. The INFP imagination seems to amuse them a lot, as does any rebellious streak we have. I think it surprises them to see a usually quiet and moralistic person be a little bad, haha.

 

[WieldingTheSword]

Dry, intelligent humor. You indeed have to be clever and tactful. I think most NT humor is hysterical. I enjoy sarcasm, provided it is friendly and not cruel.

I think I laugh at a lot of really random stuff, too, like natural observations or hearing the observations others make about behavior.

 

[entropie]

Withhold sex

 

[WieldingTheSword]

And oh, I have an odd fondness of well-done satire and parody.

 

[Domino]

I *love* verbal jousting. Nothing crude, but definitely sharp and observational.

Withhold sex

I'm going to strangle Entropie with my underpants. That's pretty sexy.

 

[entropie]

Doesnt need an enfj for that one

 

[jtanSis1]

treat them like an INFP

 

[Thursday]

Subtle but direct. One on one banter.
Sarcastic and naughty, sure. Always sincere and pulling - like a come hither with words.
Witty mouth karate

 

[thehigher]

k I think I've observed this before. Anything else?

 

[Afkan]

I want to know how to tease an enfj to their wits end. How do I keep you guys on your toes? What will entice you? What paradoxes do you take part in? What drives you nuts....the stuff you wish didn't.

Tease them about not being able to light up the emotional centers of your brain. Only will work in the THROES of them trying- you have to be prepared to be on your toes bc we do quip back quickly. You may get a tiger's roar or even a hyperventilated blush bc they forgot to breath they're so angry.

Or tease them about caring too much about what people think, very playfully but tease-style.

Ignore their attempts if you wish to drive them CRAZY, literally UP THE WALL. As in needing to be admitted. I'm serious. fyi this is mean though, so only do it if you want to be mean.

Withhold sex

He's definitely onto something.
However, proceed with caution.
And only try if you want to make them FURIOUS. Raging balls furious.

 

[Unkindloving]

As i discovered with d@v3, call us a different type.
It may set something off in our brains that makes us think "This could potentially benefit you to understand why i am not this other type... help me help you.. help me.. help.. you" It may cause a fantastic malfunction, sparks and twitching.

I think the best would be if you actually understand the enfj and they know it, but you insist that you don't understand.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

True ENFJs are pedagogs. They go out of their way to help people. That is Fe. Unselfish TO A FAULT.

 

[Unkindloving]

True ENFJs are pedagogs. They go out of their way to help people. That is Fe. Unselfish TO A FAULT.

How gross.

 

[LostInNerSpace]

Maybe you should stop pretending to be an ENFJ then. It's true that ENFJs will help people at their own expense. As an INTP with some Fe, I feel that. I often do things for others to my own detriment. People will take advantage of that given the opportunity. Fortunately my Fe is not that strong.

 

[Unkindloving]

Maybe you should stop pretending to be an ENFJ then.

Not pretending. Just not all-encompassing.

It's true that ENFJs will help people at their own expense. As an INTP with some Fe, I feel that. I often do things for others to my own detriment. People will take advantage of that given the opportunity. Fortunately my Fe is not that strong.

To a fault, i help specific people at my own expense. It's not a tactic i was equipped with, but it is one that developed over time and experiences.
People definitely do take advantage of it. You may be a bit lucky.

 

[Afkan]

Maybe you should stop pretending to be an ENFJ then. It's true that ENFJs will help people at their own expense. As an INTP with some Fe, I feel that. I often do things for others to my own detriment. People will take advantage of that given the opportunity. Fortunately my Fe is not that strong.

You have an excellent point.
At the same time, don't you think that someone who has had Fe for their entire life would build up a resistance? Wouldn't someone with stronger Fe be more likely to have learned how to cope ?
I'm in no way claiming any enfj's boundaries are perfect.

 

[Manimal]

treat them like an INFP

in other words ignore them?