Wait, the drunk dialing thing doesn't work?
My world is in shambles.
If it was an ongoing thing where you kept on putting yourself in a situation that was causing you pain, he may have been trying to splash some cold water on ya.
When I see people make the same decisions that lead to the same emotional consequences over and over, I do one of two things:
1) I splash some Fi cold water on their face in hopes they snap out of it.
2) I say nothing, and start pushing them out of my life.
Or more frequently, try number one and revert to number two when the person doesn't listen, repeats their mistakes, and still wishes for me to be their listening ear. As is often the case with us NPs, we are usually blunt with the people we respect, otherwise it's not worth the effort.