penelope
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Saw a similar title, so I thought I'd go for it...
So yeah, gosh, I'm feeling confused. It's not an easy transition, and I've only noticed it over the last 6 months, and only in the last 2 have I noticed the lack of my emotional/feeley capabilities no longer being there, since being in a serious relationship with an ENFP. I'm reminded constantly that I am far more rational and logical thinking than he is, and that he seems to be more emotionally involved in the relationship than I am. I figured at first that our functions were just balancing out that way, but then I got to thinking that there has been an actual transition taking place.
So, I'm at this point in my life where I'm facing a little bit of an arrested development. I graduated college, moved into the city, am on my own financially (lost my first stable, full time job about a month and a half ago), and am facing and getting used to a lot of other firsts. But the transition has left me feeling like a helpless child watching the real world unfold, and the scary thing is that I am not emotionally in tune with myself enough to keep up. Approaching it rationally and logically as I have been just isn't working.
My boyfriend has suggested meditating to try to find that part of me again... essentially my Fi (that's the right function, right? Still new to MBTI). I'm having the most difficult time getting back to it.
So then, I wonder, if I'm really more of an INTJ, how can I develop my Ti (again, 'scuse me if that's the wrong term) to know how to face these challenges?
Just throwing this out there. I'm not even sure I know what I'm talking about. Heh.
So yeah, gosh, I'm feeling confused. It's not an easy transition, and I've only noticed it over the last 6 months, and only in the last 2 have I noticed the lack of my emotional/feeley capabilities no longer being there, since being in a serious relationship with an ENFP. I'm reminded constantly that I am far more rational and logical thinking than he is, and that he seems to be more emotionally involved in the relationship than I am. I figured at first that our functions were just balancing out that way, but then I got to thinking that there has been an actual transition taking place.
So, I'm at this point in my life where I'm facing a little bit of an arrested development. I graduated college, moved into the city, am on my own financially (lost my first stable, full time job about a month and a half ago), and am facing and getting used to a lot of other firsts. But the transition has left me feeling like a helpless child watching the real world unfold, and the scary thing is that I am not emotionally in tune with myself enough to keep up. Approaching it rationally and logically as I have been just isn't working.
My boyfriend has suggested meditating to try to find that part of me again... essentially my Fi (that's the right function, right? Still new to MBTI). I'm having the most difficult time getting back to it.
So then, I wonder, if I'm really more of an INTJ, how can I develop my Ti (again, 'scuse me if that's the wrong term) to know how to face these challenges?
Just throwing this out there. I'm not even sure I know what I'm talking about. Heh.