Well, I don't see the point in talking with a female, unless for the reasons of having a relationship. What's the point? Moreover, having a girl as your "friend" just complicates everything. There will always be some level of sexual tension in the relationship that I as an INTJ just don't want to deal with. And if you tell me there isn't any feelings there, then you're just denying yourself the truth.
Evolution (if you believe in it) has led us to interact with people of the opposite sex for really only one reason, which is sex. If you look at all the other species of animals in the world, you will find that male animals interact with mostly other males (like playful wrestling or something), while female animals interact with mostly other females and their children. The only time male and female come together is to mate.
Disagree with you there. I have many platonic male friends. Actually, being a female INTJ, I have WAY more male friends than I do girl friends.
You ENFPs are full of BS...I can't tolerate this anymore. Where is your logic and rational thinking? Flirting leads people on. Flirting is an evolutionary utility created to make the process of mating easier. You can believe what you want, but in the end all the friends you have of the opposite sex are interested in you sexually. You are interested in them sexually also (you're just denying yourself the truth). ENFPs are known to fantasize about others while in a relationship and easily get bored with current friendships and relationships. So who are these people you think about? Really, how are others supposed to trust you?
I'm leaving this conversation to find an INTJ forum, where people use logic instead of believing what they think to be true as absolute truth. You have to use logic and base your logic on facts, not just assume that you understand everything about yourselves so well. I have to say that most of you are denying the truth to yourselves. Especially if you have INTJ friends of the opposite sex, then I doubt they are just there to be "friends"...if you don't feel sexual attraction, then you're leading them on, and you're about to crush all their hopes. When that's done, they will stop talking to you, forever, because that's what INTJs do.
The whole point of MBTI is to better understand how others work. You are just running away and rejecting an entire personality type rather than attempting to understand them. It's just very immature of you to just run away from the issue like that based on that one experience. If anything, this will help you better deal with ENFP's in the future.
I've just been burned pretty badly by the ENFP coworker who seriously led me on. I am most certainly bitter and actually have more of a reason to be so than you. In MY case, he knew I liked him, we went out on dates. However, when in his mind he decided he was no longer interested, he continued to HEAVILY flirt with me at work AND kiss me at work, while the dates had completely ceased, totally leading me on for a long time. Then he would give me the cold shoulder to hurtfully hint that he was no longer interested rather than confronting me. It was horrible. And I'm still to this day dealing with those feelings. I decided to confront him about it and it went down horribly. All he did was point out MY MISTAKES. Didn't even apologize ONCE for his behavior, when I willfully apologized for my mistakes.
Here's where the problem with ENFP's behavior lies. The moment they sense someone has misinterpreted their flirtation they need to STOP any and ALL flirtation with them immediately.
I think that's where ENFP's differ with INTJ's. If I sense a male friend is starting to like me as more than a friend, I IMMEDIATELY make it very clear by my actions that I'm not interested in that way. I stop being extra friendly right away to not lead the person on.
anyway. I'm sorry this happened.
