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[INFP] INFPs attract unusual people?

Gloriana

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I'm an INFJ and I've attracted a shit ton of creepos. If INFPs do too, does that mean it has something to do with that NF part? (I'm new to all this stuff!).

I've had a lot of those "You're my savior!" people, and I had a stalker when I was 18 who claimed that he could feel this 'connection' between us after I'd only talked to him twice at two different parties. I partly blame myself because I'm too loquacious when it comes to sharing the stuff I pick up about people when talking to them, I need to shut my damn cake hole :D
 

Thalassa

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I think I used to do things that attracted creepos, quite frankly. :devil:

But, yeah, even now that I'm minding my own business there's some dude down the street with a brain injury who has offered to give me a back massage, :wacko:and then he made a couple of unexpected appearances on my front porch before I finally yelled at him.

I have more interesting stories than that, to be sure, but not for a public forum.

Besides, are you just trying to exploit the INFP victim complex?:angry:
 

jixmixfix

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I think I used to do things that attracted creepos, quite frankly. :devil:

But, yeah, even now that I'm minding my own business there's some dude down the street with a brain injury who has offered to give me a back massage, :wacko:and then he made a couple of unexpected appearances on my front porch before I finally yelled at him.

I have more interesting stories than that, to be sure, but not for a public forum.

Besides, are you just trying to exploit the INFP victim complex?:angry:

I'm just being a prankster in a way..but I'm quite curious INFPs are intriguing to an extent.
 

OrangeAppled

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I think he's looking for anecdotes...

Okay, so I have a design portfolio website, with some contact info on it. I also used to have a blog, which I thought was pretty anonymous. I did have a few photos of myself on it though, and it said what city I live in.

One day, this guy contacts me through my website by email to do some design work. Not the first time it has happened, so nothing weird about it.
What is weird is how he keeps trying to talk about non-work topics in his emails to me. He sends these looong messages, asks me about what music/movies/etc I like. At first I respond tersely, and then I just ignore him, as he clearly wasn't interested in having any design work done after all. Then he switches gears and starts acting serious about paying for some artwork and talks me into meeting him briefly at a coffee shop to discuss it. So I agree (stupidly).

When I meet him in person he is really, really odd. Some alarms were going off in my head, especially when he kept suggesting we take a walk in this secluded wooded area :huh:. I found an excuse to leave and decided that was the end of dealing with him.

The next day he began texting me non-stop. I got fed up and told him to never contact me again. A few days go by and I think that everything is fine.
Then I go to a concert and get this creepy text saying "Just relax and have fun". I didn't post anywhere saying I was going to a concert....

He continued to bother me after that, texting and calling constantly. It escalated into him leaving voice mails yelling at me angrily, then another message being really "nice" & apologizing, then another rambling on so long it cut him off and he had to call back to finish the message..... He seemed to think I was his girlfriend :shock:. One day, driving home on the freeway, he drives past me and waves out the window. I then start to see him following me home from work now & then. I start taking alternate, long routes home, since he didn't seem to know where I lived yet and I didn't want him to find out.

So then he texts me, referencing something personal I never said anything about to him. I rack my brain about how he'd know that info, and then finally realize he had been reading my personal blog, in which I stupidly mentioned a term linked to my design website if you googled it. So he had been "cyber" stalking me long before he even contacted me.

I make a post in my blog about this weirdo stalker (him) and how I am going to call the police and change my phone number if I hear from him again. A week goes by and it seems I was finally rid of him.

Then I start getting voice mails again, and he says "I love you". It totally freaks me out to hear that, and so I change my phone number finally (I did not want to change it because I was job hunting at the time and had just sent out resumes with that number). The next day he drives past my work and I am standing outside, and he sees me see him, and he ducks. Then he was gone. I never saw or heard from him again. I think he believed that I would call the police after all, since I did follow through on changing my phone number....

It took about 2 months to get rid of him, and I felt sick and anxious the whole time. So that's the worst weirdo I've attracted thus far.
 

Thalassa

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Whoa. That's pretty bad, OrangeAppled.

I have some creepy stories, but that's a full on random stalker.

Have you seen this?

[YOUTUBE="c06pinaKl8o"]Dimitri the Stud[/YOUTUBE]
 

jixmixfix

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Whoa. That's pretty bad, OrangeAppled.

I have some creepy stories, but that's a full on random stalker.

Have you seen this?

[YOUTUBE="c06pinaKl8o"]Dimitri the Stud[/YOUTUBE]

wow... very creepy...especially the part ok now here's is how is is going to wor"K!"
 

jixmixfix

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I think he's looking for anecdotes...

Okay, so I have a design portfolio website, with some contact info on it. I also used to have a blog, which I thought was pretty anonymous. I did have a few photos of myself on it though, and it said what city I live in.

One day, this guy contacts me through my website by email to do some design work. Not the first time it has happened, so nothing weird about it.
What is weird is how he keeps trying to talk about non-work topics in his emails to me. He sends these looong messages, asks me about what music/movies/etc I like. At first I respond tersely, and then I just ignore him, as he clearly wasn't interested in having any design work done after all. Then he switches gears and starts acting serious about paying for some artwork and talks me into meeting him briefly at a coffee shop to discuss it. So I agree (stupidly).

When I meet him in person he is really, really odd. Some alarms were going off in my head, especially when he kept suggesting we take a walk in this secluded wooded area :huh:. I found an excuse to leave and decided that was the end of dealing with him.

The next day he began texting me non-stop. I got fed up and told him to never contact me again. A few days go by and I think that everything is fine.
Then I go to a concert and get this creepy text saying "Just relax and have fun". I didn't post anywhere saying I was going to a concert....

He continued to bother me after that, texting and calling constantly. It escalated into him leaving voice mails yelling at me angrily, then another message being really "nice" & apologizing, then another rambling on so long it cut him off and he had to call back to finish the message..... He seemed to think I was his girlfriend :shock:. One day, driving home on the freeway, he drives past me and waves out the window. I then start to see him following me home from work now & then. I start taking alternate, long routes home, since he didn't seem to know where I lived yet and I didn't want him to find out.

So then he texts me, referencing something personal I never said anything about to him. I rack my brain about how he'd know that info, and then finally realize he had been reading my personal blog, in which I stupidly mentioned a term linked to my design website if you googled it. So he had been "cyber" stalking me long before he even contacted me.

I make a post in my blog about this weirdo stalker (him) and how I am going to call the police and change my phone number if I hear from him again. A week goes by and it seems I was finally rid of him.

Then I start getting voice mails again, and he says "I love you". It totally freaks me out to hear that, and so I change my phone number finally (I did not want to change it because I was job hunting at the time and had just sent out resumes with that number). The next day he drives past my work and I am standing outside, and he sees me see him, and he ducks. Then he was gone. I never saw or heard from him again. I think he believed that I would call the police after all, since I did follow through on changing my phone number....

It took about 2 months to get rid of him, and I felt sick and anxious the whole time. So that's the worst weirdo I've attracted thus far.

that's very creepy, I think that one goes beyond archetypes and just a general creepy stalker story haha fairly entertaining though.
 

whatusername

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I find that what I attract aren't necessarily creepos, but eccentrics who somehow expect that I would understand them.

I can't think of any one particular anecdote, but these "encounters" usually involve them telling me their whole lives/ a particular moment in their lives, ending with "I can't believe I just told you that," or "Thanks for doing this."

Oh yeah, these people are usually those who are involved in some "passion/ cause" of some sort, like one was a student activist involved in labor advocacy, one was a music major. And they seem passionate about what they're doing.

Did they freak me out? Sometimes, when they'd be too intense and start to kind of shout at me. I just wide-eyed in front of them and nod slowly. They seem to interpret that as "Yes, I understand."
 

Llewellyn

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Wish I would attract any people at all.. Might be an idea to keep my eyes open more..

Counting on two fingers, it would be either someone way too normal, or someone who is funny/experimental (but when you face her says 'How is anything not normal? Why would you do anything that's not normal? Am I then not normal?'; i.e. ISFP, or so I guess).

But regarding the question about INFPs, there is something about that, yeah. I notice it in one of my friends.
 

Wild horses

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I think that any type that counts empathy and great listening skills amongst their strengths is going to attract 'unusual' people. These types of people by definition are out of the loop with most people and so whilst they may be able to socialise in society they will struggle to find a connection because they are just so rare and that is where the INFP comes in!
 

phthalocyanine

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i think something about INFPs in general that may attract unusual people is the blend of the "i really want to help other people" vibe paired with the "i have been judged/written off/outcast before, so i won't do that to you" vibe.
thankfully it seems we also have a tendency to find a way to totally disappear when a situation gets dicey enough..
 

niki

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Basically, my story of life :D

when I told some of my closest friends about what kind of experiences I've had experienced, they'd abruptly call 'em such "crazy unbelievable experiences" , or encounters, that they wouldn't easily able to do!
but little do these people know, that my work-daily life COULD become only a 'normal-boring-routine' life, if I were to do it the standard, 'NORMAL' way as well!
fortunately, somehow, I have always been 'famous' for going "out of the loop" (as the previous posters mentioned above), and/or "gone off to strange, weird places", and as a result, met, or make friends with eccentric/'weird' people as well!

to mention a few:
1. I've had 3 homosexual friends. my INTJ cousin never got such experiences! and guess what, I'm actually quite thankful for that, because these friends of mine usually have their unusual NEW life, that made my life much more interesting too as a result! :D
(then my INTJ cousin would rant of how "boring" his life had been, because he's not, and also can't be as 'adventurous' as me :D )
2. I've made friend with a person who just got out from jail, 'bout 8 years ago, when I was still studying in LA. and surprisingly, we can 'connect' really well. to this day, i'll never forget him!
3. I've made "friends" with many, many different type of people from various type of life,
from the rich, down to the gutter-poor kind of environment/background!
there was even a group of these 'poor' people, asking me in a thoughtful way "why do you want to make friends with me?" ,..because they said, if it were "other" people, with my kind of race/ethnicity and economic/financial status, they wouldn't even talk a word with these 'poor' people! but I just simply replied to them "because I ENJOY hanging out with you guys! and that's enough reason, isn't it? why all the race/ethnicity/economic/financial 'barriers' created??" :)
4. about 2 years ago, I went to Japan by myself, ALONE. and I've gone through subways, to the highest temple that people rarely ever go, and made friends with 'eccentric' people from Japanese musician-student, to a random FUN girl, to a Zen practicioner (he's an American) at the highest temple! :D
5. I could easily ask a 'random' stranger whom's waiting on the bus line, or sitting at the park, etc etc. basically, I actually LOVE to able to meet eccentric, unique people as well.

This is NOT without weakness though..
because admitedly,
I've noticed that I've always tried to avoid these kind/type of people:
- 'normal', ordinary people
- what i would termed as "boring" people
- the 'corporate-workalholic' type
- the kind of people who only do brags, and talks about their jobs, their businesses, then their jobs again, then businesses again, and so on. ohh, i hate this the most!
- people who only listen to "normal mainstream" stuff of music (beats me, but the kind/genre of music a person listen to usually, I'd find, very-much related with the kind of lifestyle, or what personality the person might has! :D ).
- and since I LOVE and passionate about music soo much, the WORST possible people that I'll try to avoid is those people who can't and don't appreciate Arts, the beauty, and depth of it. and those who only see Arts in terms of $$$$$ (ie: MONEY)! urgggh, i also hate this a lot!
 

Koocoomoo

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Because we're shrinks.
Naturally we attract people with issues.
 

Thessaly

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INFP's innocence and naivety luring corruption

I don't know why, but I swear I attract trouble like honey attracts bees. It is beyond ridiculous. I'm glad I don't go clubbing or to bars much because god knows the levels of weird crap that would increase 10 fold. Do any other INFPs feel this way?

I just feel like weirdos prey on me constantly. I'm a very assertive and confident person, but it's like they can smell my idealistic, timid insides or something... *mumbles and grumbles*
 

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Those are just the psycho ones. The good ones want to protect you :D
 
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