infjs talk about their lives in emotional language, and they like to communicate about what is most important to them, what they struggle with, etc, but they have difficulty with their own emotional awareness. their skills are much better suited towards recognizing/reconstructing the inner states of others. all those goddamned mirror neurons.
i have enormous difficulty making decisions, and in some contexts, this fucks up my communication skills in those serious relationship talks, moments, etc. i just don't know what to say, bc i don't have an accurate reading on the situation. i am floating over my average self, and i sway so far depending on a variety of somewhat relevant but not the truth factors, and it's difficult for me to commit to a specific anything in the moment. instead it always feels like i'm working on it.
i do know that enfps catalyze my emotions better than any other type. i just feel more emotionally free with them than other types, i feel like they recognize exactly where i am on an emotional level, they can figure it out better than me, and with 7w6s, they are usually very gentle and supportive and imaginative and funny. the connection is very natural. i think, in my experience, it might take a little more time for female enfp-male infj than the opposite, as the timidity can still be pretty high with unsocial infjs and anxious 7w6 enfps. enfp females generally have no issues with physical distance, until they become aware of it, or there's a change in tenor. then it can become quite self-conscious. that probably depends, as much as anything, on instinctual subtype as well. i mainly know so/sx for 7w6, the only sx/so types i've met are 7w8.
well put "the state i am in". i am a female 7w6 enfp & my boyfriend is an infj - i think he's a 9. i have directly noticed / observed / reflected on etc. everything you mentioned above with him & what you wrote is SPOT ON!!! excellently accurate & true . . . and like you mentioned also, we get those moments when he can be distant but yet i can still tell that he is observing me & the ways i will react to him & i can't figure out how to respond from him & then i start getting anxious & paranoid because i don't know what's wrong or what he's thinking & then he says that he doesn't even know & then i start getting mean because i feel rejected & scared & my fight or flight response / fear of rejection makes me react like hurt him before he hurts me & i spew out anxiety laden mean verbal diahherea to fill the cold silence & distance. ENFPs need to just learn to WAIT IT OUT i think, it's that simple. also i get paranoid that he probably secretly wants an ENTP girl now that dumb me got him into MBTI . . . cuz all you infjs seem to adore them across the board & i think enfps seem like a dime a dozen to infjs . . . enfps are a dime a dozen, poppin up everywhere & hittin on infjs . . . like there's plenty to go around but meanwhile the enTp is the true golden prize that they're wating for . . . OK i went off on a tangent peace & love