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What is shyness for 200
To be shy is to want to seek the person(s) out, but not have the courage
What is shyness for 200
I am also curious as to why all the hype with INFJs. Not that y'all aren't awesome. It's just that there is a disproportional amount of INFJ curiosity on these boards, it seems.
Are INFJs the myth of the 21st century?
To be shy is to want to seek the person(s) out, but not have the courage
what's all this hype with infjs? are we really all that?
I'm very curious about what it means to be shy (not introverted), it's something so foreign to me and I want to understand it.
I always wonder what you think could happen possibly happen - rejection? If you smile at her, and she smiles at you, wouldn't it be reasonable to assume that she would not reject you?
Also, would you be receptive to a woman approaching you, or would you try to find a way to walk away as well?
You for sure are. I me some INFJ.
I think we all have moments of shyness but I've always wondered what it's like to think like that on an everyday basis. I guess I'm curious now because there is this guy that I see often and he never speaks to me but I can feel his eyes on the back of my neck. We have mutual friends and they tell me that he's always asking about me. Because I can't stand waiting (!!), I approached him at a party and he just about blanched. I swore that I would never make that mistake with him again and decided he wasn't worth my energy. But the next day a friend said that I was all he could talk about after I left - analyzing and rehashing our 15 min conversation over and over.
The fact that he was at a party and has other friends makes me think that he doesn't have a social anxiety, so I guess this is what being shy looks like? How do you get past this point with someone like that...
I think we all have moments of shyness but I've always wondered what it's like to think like that on an everyday basis. I guess I'm curious now because there is this guy that I see often and he never speaks to me but I can feel his eyes on the back of my neck. We have mutual friends and they tell me that he's always asking about me. Because I can't stand waiting (!!), I approached him at a party and he just about blanched. I swore that I would never make that mistake with him again and decided he wasn't worth my energy. But the next day a friend said that I was all he could talk about after I left - analyzing and rehashing our 15 min conversation over and over.
The fact that he was at a party and has other friends makes me think that he doesn't have a social anxiety, so I guess this is what being shy looks like? How do you get past this point with someone like that...
it takes me many times to 'get it right' with people that i am attracted to cuz i'm already so damn nervous i can't be myself. isn't it like that for you?
If he's introvert the party atmosphere isn't going to be his thing. Something quieter and more intimate will be much more effective in drawing him out of his shell.
If he's a shy person that fights you - then forget about it unless he's really hot and the fact that introverts are usually great in bed compels you.
Not even a little bit. When I see someone I like, or who looks interesting, I am so excited to talk to that person. Patience is something I struggle with and nervousness is something I know nothing about.
wow. i can't believe that. i really had no idea (duh) people didn't get nervous like that......i can't even hardly bring myself to talk on the phone with someone i'm attracted to!
and it's intersting you are 'done' with this guy. that is so not me. i'd find it a challenge even more now, if i found him attractive that is.
He definitely likes you, jeno! I agree with the others--a party is NOT the place to get to know an introvert. Go for coffee or go bookshopping or something.
Lol shyness. In 6th grade I didn't talk to my "gf" for like a month. Then she broke up with me. Bitch.
In all seriousness, I just can't ever think of something to say. So I say nothing.
Hahaha, that is adorable.
But do you ever have to think of things to say around your friends? You just talk about whatever, right? So why the sudden pressure?
I can't really imagine being nervous to call someone. It's so foreign to me. What runs through your head?
This has been going on for a month already. Well, it's been a month since I've noticed him but friends say he's been asking about me for a while now. A month is a really long time when there is no sign of progress... and we've only had conversation in passing. He is hella hot, though. Dilemma.
That's sweet and encouraging, but what should I do if he won't call me or talk to me when he sees me? I can only do so much... And then it makes me wonder what could possibly even come out of something like this. If he's too scared to call me, I'll be freaking the hell out of him sooner or later, right?
And why is a party so bad for an introvert? What are you there for, if not to meet people?
I can't really imagine being nervous to call someone. It's so foreign to me. What runs through your head?
You've experienced the "fight or flight" feeling, right? That's what it's like. Your nerves are on-end, your heart is racing, and your mind is cranking a million miles an hour, but really thinking about nothing.