[ENFP] ENFPs: Hopeless Flirts?

[Wild horses]

Wild, your not helping! Your only distracting!

I'm always distracted, that's what I am and what I do... and as for the cake it is pretty lush dontcha think!???!!!

But onto the more 'serious' topic of flirting I think our playfulness is getting misunderstood for sexual inuendo alot of the time.. Ahhh I don't know I don't really flirt not very good at it.. takes too much time... playing on the other hand

 

[Wild horses]

Anyone freee for a game of tag!?

 

[Amargith]

I am, I am *jumps up and down*

 

[d@v3]

Playing IS flirting! And YOU ENFP's pretty much ASK for the sexual innuendo! It is not OUR fault! In fact, you are the ones who usually start with the innuendo in the first place! Then you blame us!

 

[Wild horses]

What playing is flirting????... tell that to your defense lawyer when you get into trouble in the yard!

 

[Wild horses]

I am, I am *jumps up and down*

Actually how do you guys play it here... I have to admit we call it touch but then on this thread that would open up a whole other can of worms right

 

[d@v3]

What playing is flirting????... tell that to your defense lawyer when you get into trouble in the yard!

Everyone knows that playing is flirting Wild, where have you been? What do they teach you over there in Europe????!!?

 

[d@v3]

Actually how do you guys play it here... I have to admit we call it touch but then on this thread that would open up a whole other can of worms right

See what I mean by you starting the sexual innuendo Wild? You are talking about touching!

 

[Wild horses]

By 'everyone' do you mean yourself and Michael Jackson!?

 

[d@v3]

By 'everyone' do you mean yourself and Michael Jackson!?

THAT WAS MEAN! You are not a sweet ENFP! You are an ENTP! :steam:

 

[kyuuei]

Playing IS flirting! And YOU ENFP's pretty much ASK for the sexual innuendo! It is not OUR fault! In fact, you are the ones who usually start with the innuendo in the first place! Then you blame us!

I ask for sexual innuendos with my playful banter the same way women asked to be raped because they wear revealing clothing.

 

[Salomé]

And if you do love them the way you claim to, and your bond is that solid, then trust should not be an issue.

It is when you find them with their drawers around their ankles!

I totally understand not wanting to be entirely absorbed in your relationship. That's unhealthy. But I don't understand why other interactions have to revolve around sex. We'll just have to agree to disagree on this.

Be honest. You want your cake and eat it, too. That's all I want to hear. It's not about depriving the world of your "beneficial influence" to not flirt. Give me a break.

I don't really hear you ever talking about things from the point of view of what is best for your partner. Only what serves your own interests and inclination.

Have to agree.

 

[Wild horses]

THAT WAS MEAN! You are not a sweet ENFP! You are an ENTP! :steam:

I'm sorry, didn't mean to hurt your feelings

 

[Lauren Ashley]

Actually, Udog said it in the beginning of this thread:

Udog is INFP. I'm looking for ENFPs' perspective. I'm guessing you agree with the bolded portion?

 

[Amargith]

Blue: and I don't see why it should be excluded. It's a fascinating topic. But I agree to disagree, np

 

[Amargith]

Udog is INFP. I'm looking for ENFPs' perspective. I'm guessing you agree with the bolded portion?

Yes, very much so

 

[d@v3]

I'm sorry, didn't mean to hurt your feelings

Wild don't be silly, I'm an ISTJ I don't have feelings!

Kyuuei> My point exactly, you ENFP girls are just too tempting! Then you back off and leave us when we give you what you ask for! It's not fair!

 

[kyuuei]

^ No, My point is I don't ask for sexual innuendos at all. Not a bit. If i'm playing, that's exactly what I'm doing, there's no dual motivation there. Playing around ABOUT sex is not the same as asking for sex. Just like playful insults is not the same as insulting. The motivations and intentions behind the two are different.

 

[Wild horses]

TBH I don't even really play around in that way much I just somehow find that people turn it into innuendo... anyone else find that?

 

[kyuuei]

^ I think this is the fulcrum of the entire thread. What we as ENFPs see as friendly and playful is not taken as that by other types and people around us.