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    Quote Originally Posted by IDK123 View Post
    So I'm 19 and the people I tend to connect with the most are usually 20-30 years older. It's not that I don't like my peers, it's just really interesting. I let out my pretty immature when I'm around them but when I'm around much older individuals, I'm a lot more serious and get into many in depth conversations. Can others identiy with this?
    Up until like age 23 or so, I always felt more comfortable around older people, and related to them on a more mature level. And I think they saw this and appreciated it in me...Usually treated me as an adult back at me and we carried on mature conversations, Yes! I connect with you on this..

    Of course there were some older people who were emotionally and intellectually immature...that hadn't grown up to the level I would imagine as average for their age anyway, and so again, didn't get along with them comfortably either. Especially if they made attempts to make fun of me out of some trivial thing..just annoying.

    But as a child I had a really tough time relating with my Dad...and it just turned my gut in knots. He's an S, I'm an N. So perhaps I sought older more mature people because 1.) they are more approachably mature on average. 2.) They have had more life experiences and have probably flushed-out and seen past the pointless immaturity. Personally, I think immaturity is there for the important reason of letting older people excuse behavior which is appears stupid..afterall, kids don't know what they're doing. Same as the reason puppies are cute..as I heard someone say one time..."it's so we don't kill them when they destroy our house and get into all sorts of mischief". lol..but anyway..

    Things usually work to the better..All things overall, do. It's normal. Everyone has problems. It's how you deal with them is what matters. And some who don't seem to have problems do have problems..it's just that some of us have things which are apparent to others while the rest of people have problems which aren't apparent or visible to others.

    But I think some of that awkwardness has to do with peer pressures and everyone developing one's social style too. For example, I don't feel comfortable running with the crowd...it just feels like being bound to something artificial, and which I refuse. Maybe you're a free thinker..and would appreciate an opportunity to cut loose and develop your own style! Go for it if this is you! Everyone develops theirs whether they know it or not, so what the heck..Life is what you make it!
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    I've always been drawn to older people. I enjoy their company. I find the bulk of my interests fall into older generational zones. Like antique furniture, lit, music, movies, etc. I was raised with my Grandfather early and was influenced heavily by the atmosphere of someone who was born an Edwardian (1905) and most of our furniture was very old.

    Plus older people seem to be at least somewhat calmer and have experiences that can help me. Not that I don't like people in general, but older types have been indispensable.

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    I had always preferred the stories and anecdotes of older generations, to the shallow "Yeah, we went out and got stupid last night, and *** got arrested for groping some girl..." or "Ooooo...did you see that designer dress? It only cost $500..." of many people my age and younger.

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    Yeah.. a lot of older people tend to talk to me for whatever reason. They tend to be really funny and light-hearted, I enjoy their thoughts, stories, experiences, views on life. A few friends that I identify most with, tend to be older.. We can talk on the phone for hours.

    So long as people are fun to talk to, polite, kind, then I don't mind what age they are. I enjoy them for who they are.

    If you've ever been to a retirement home to talk to older people, they're just like children (adults who stay young at heart), it's cute. And I think they deserve to respect to be heard.

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    I'm only in High School and it seems as though not a lot of people understand what I'm saying when I'm being serious. A lot of people aren't as open minded or aware of some of the things I like to talk about. People don't understand when I try to tell them about certain things..people are so naive at my age.

    I can connect to my elders. I have a slew of college friends that actually know what I'm talking about, and understand. I can talk heavy- on heavy situations dealing with intense situations, where it seems as though older people, with more life experience can connect with.
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    haha, good so it's actually fairly normal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IDK123 View Post
    haha, good so it's actually fairly normal.
    Doesn't matter if it's normal, because it isn't completely normal. In a way, it's a good thing, though. You should be proud, because what does the average 19 year old talk about? Like Biaxident said- it's mostly about stupid things that don't matter..when you're talking to elders, it usually means that you are advanced for you're age in intellect, wisdom, creativity, or whatever.
    Is it that by its indefiniteness it shadows forth the heartless voids and immensities of the universe, and thus stabs us from behind with the thought of annihilation, when beholding the white depths of the milky way?

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    Quote Originally Posted by OneWithSoul View Post
    Doesn't matter if it's normal, because it isn't completely normal. In a way, it's a good thing, though. You should be proud, because what does the average 19 year old talk about? Like Biaxident said- it's mostly about stupid things that don't matter..when you're talking to elders, it usually means that you are advanced for you're age in intellect, wisdom, creativity, or whatever.
    Those are some wise words right there. Thank you.

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    It's good to mix it up with different people of different age groups. The "young un's" keep you young at heart, and the "Oldies" generally have a few interesting tales to tell, and for more likely, if they are the sort, to engage in long conversations about philosophy, science ect.
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