Journey
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- Joined
- Mar 14, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
- Enneagram
- 6
How can we get to the INFJ core? I do agree with you. I often feel the INFJ will help the INFP to focus more on the INFP's needs, but the INFP can't really return the favor because they're already so all over the place that it's more difficult to stop for a second and focus on the INFJ.
I think the INFJ can see very clearly all of the disastrous traffic in my head and freeze it instantly. But when I look towards the INFJ, I see a wall. Not in the sense that the INFJ puts up a wall against me, it's just that I lack the ability to truly see the thoughts going through the INFJ. I can only scratch the surface. They can tell me how they feel about something, what they're thinking, but I feel unable to help in someway beyond listening. I feel like I cannot share in those thoughts or feelings as much as I really want to do so, that I lack so much in that INFJ ability to connect to others.
But I do really wish I could reach the INFJ "core" and better understand my friend, for she is truly one of the most honest and wonderful people I know.
Thank you for posting this. I had a close INFP friend who tried to say something like this to me several times before his death, but I didn't understand him. Now I do. We were not as close the last few years of his life after his remarriage, but when I knew him he was pretty much a black hole of emotional need. So our relationship was fairly one-sided and I let it be. It's good to know he recognized it and wanted it to be different. Thank you.