[MBTI General] Fracture

[Brendan]

The following all took place over text, because when I talk to her in person, she only listens in so far as I tell her what she wants to hear.

Mom: I need to put the house on the market and get something more affordable.

Me: Do you feel it may be unwise to say things like that over text?

Mom: Obviously not.

Me: Well it is.

Mom: But thanks for the criticism. As always.

Me: Fuck off.

Mom: Consider your cell phone shut off. As of tomorrow.

Me: Good. One less way for you to talk to me. Hey, you think you'll save enough to buy yourself an extra ounce of weed every month?

Mom: Probably. Thanks.

Me: Always happy to help someone whose priorities are straight.

Mom: Thanks. And now I'm done. Don't want to live like this anymore. Bye.

Me: Yeah. I'm so mean and your altruism knows no limits. Boo fucking hoo. How was such a wonderful mother cursed with such a bad son.

Mom: Goodbye.

Me: Promise?

Mom: Yep.

Me: Well you'll have to forgive that I've learned not to trust your promises.

Mom: You can trust this one.

Me: Oh word? Wow now I'm convinced.

Mom: Good. Enjoy the house. I'm done. Painlessly.

Me: I've never enjoyed the house.

Mom: Good. Then you're okay if I sell it. Or you can sell it when I'm gone. That makes me feel better.

Me: Yeah. See you tomorrow.

Mom: Probably not.


She's downstairs drinking a glass of wine and watching TV at the moment.

 

[disregard]

Why would it be unwise for her to put that in text?

 

[LostInNerSpace]

Why would it be unwise for her to put that in text?

Wow! I'm impressed with my new found skills. I just intercepted a joke that otherwise may have offended people.

 

[Brendan]

Why would it be unwise for her to put that in text?

Dude. Would you tell someone to get ready to kiss their home goodbye over a text message?

 

[disregard]

Oh, I thought you meant unwise as in someone could get hold of that information easier via text as opposed to in person.

Yeah, since she's your mom I suppose she should be more attuned to what would be a sensitive subject with you and a good way in which to approach it.

 

[Randomnity]

I wouldn't listen to someone who told me to fuck off, either.

 

[Brendan]

I wouldn't listen to someone who told me to fuck off, either.

That's exactly why I don't listen to her.

 

[Kasper]

Wow, that sounds bad. I can't imagine having that kind of relationship with my mother I have to assume there's a long history of bad communication and hurt on both sides.

Why don't you move out?

 

[Anja]

She sounds ill, Brendan.

 

[Lexicon]

She sounds ill, Brendan.

Agreed.
I'm detecting a toxic, codependent relationship here.
I'd try to work toward moving out of that environment. It may seem overwhelming, and it may take a while.. but at least it's some light at the end of the tunnel.
Perhaps your relationship with your mom will have a chance to improve with a little space.. however, it sounds like your mom needs some individual therapy before you could even attempt a stable relationship with her later, if you even want one.


Dysfunctional parents can be difficult to deal with, to say the least.
I still go through a lot with my own mother. Progressively taking control of an emotionally abusive situation and developing some self value has taken me years, and taken me a long way forward as well.

I sincerely wish you the best of luck.