[INFJ] Will I ever stop morphing?

[ArchAngel]

I'm an INFJ man well into adulthood, and my life has been one long transition. Multiple careers, multiple relationships, multiple interests ... don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed it tremendously ...

But I look around me and most other people seem much more settled. I'm not saying I'd rather be like them --- I love my life! --- but I do wonder, is it the destiny of the INFJ to be constantly in transition? Are we naturally more dynamic?

 

[Tiltyred]

I'm an INFJ man well into adulthood, and my life has been one long transition. Multiple careers, multiple relationships, multiple interests ... don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed it tremendously ...

But I look around me and most other people seem much more settled. I'm not saying I'd rather be like them --- I love my life! --- but I do wonder, is it the destiny of the INFJ to be constantly in transition? Are we naturally more dynamic?

Either that or we end up with people who are.

 

[GargoylesLegacy]

Okay so, I can't say much about INFJs in special, but I thought you might like to hear that also other types have much changes to go thru. Also I think that mostly it just looks like others are more settled. At least this is what I experienced.
That said, I am curious to hear what other INFJs or maybe even other non INFJs might say to this.

 

[nightning]

Will you ever stop morphing... yes! On the day you die. Because then, you'll just be decaying not morphing.

Jokes aside, I think everybody regardless of type are changing all the time. However the Ni idealization of "ever renewing transformation" might make it seem like we're changing a great deal more than other types.

 

[BlueScreen]

Yeh, I like what Tiltyred said. It's moving toward what you are, though that changes and evolves too, hehe.

I think it's great that you keep learning and growing. I'm never going to stop. To learn nothing new and stay in the same place is like torture for me.

 

[ArchAngel]

To learn nothing new and stay in the same place is like torture for me.

Exactly ...

 

[Tiltyred]

Yeh, I like what Tittyred said.

 

[Moiety]

If you are still morphing by the time you are 80 you're my hero.

 

[Synarch]

You are a Hericletean flux. You cannot step into the same river twice. There is no you. There is only the name we apply to a pattern of being, which appears to maintain some consistency over time. Everything that you are changes daily: cells die, tissues grow or change, hairs fall out and grow in. You are really more a process than a being.

Your mind is the same way. Everything you experience changes you. Every thought becomes a habit of thinking. We are not beings as much as we are becomings. This only changes when we die.

 

[Thursday]

We are not beings as much as we are becomings. This only changes when we die.

Dying is a wild night and a new road.
Emily D.

 

[Synarch]

Dying is for quitters.

 

[Thursday]

Dying is for quitters.

How else but death do we make anew ?

 

[Jack Flak]

Death is not the end.

 

[Synarch]

How else but death do we make anew ?

Yea, but I don't believe that shit.

 

[Thursday]

Yea, but I don't believe that shit.

Not that spooky ooky nonsense.
The death of a bad habit or the transformation of a relationship
Redefining what principles you adhere to.
Death in its most graceful splendor.

 

[ArchAngel]

Okay, way deeper than I expected ...

 

[Thursday]

To OP - the choice is up to you.
Stagnant waters are deep, but they also are riddled with the most bacteria
As such - you will never stop morphing, cuz you don't change.
if this is apart of your nature, then amen.

No need to make a big stink of it - go with the flow

 

[dee]

I'm an INFJ man well into adulthood, and my life has been one long transition. Multiple careers, multiple relationships, multiple interests ... don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed it tremeAndously ...

But I look around me and most other people seem much more settled. I'm not saying I'd rather be like them --- I love my life! --- but I do wonder, is it the destiny of the INFJ to be constantly in transition? Are we naturally more dynamic?
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You got to sit down and make some choices, get a grip man!!

Start with where do you want to see yourself in the next 5 years and then make a plan towards it.

Break it up, into career, personal life, other and etc. and work you're way from there.

Look, you can still use you're amazing dynamic ability, in all these areas, make it work FOR YOU and not against you, yknow what I mean?

Good luck, and I hope I wasn't too harsh, that was not my intention.

 

[Totenkindly]

I'm an INFJ man well into adulthood, and my life has been one long transition. Multiple careers, multiple relationships, multiple interests ... don't get me wrong, I've enjoyed it tremendously ...

But I look around me and most other people seem much more settled. I'm not saying I'd rather be like them --- I love my life! --- but I do wonder, is it the destiny of the INFJ to be constantly in transition? Are we naturally more dynamic?

I think we all tend to transition throughout life, some of us more overtly than others.

The Si-style people seem to "settle" in easier, and like to establish that security of "no change".... but I see it as a prison, the more that the world and circumstance changes and they're not willing to allow themselves to change with it.

Not everyone wants to self-actualize. Some just want security and to know where everything is and who everyone is and what everything is, and get anxious when they don't have answers and stability. It sounds like it's more important for you to figure out who you are and become that person.

 

[BlueScreen]

hehe, oops.

You know I always read it wrongly. Thought it was some INFJ joke, cos you guys have out there names sometimes .