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[INFJ] INFJs: Are you good at keeping in touch with people?

karenk

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I read that keeping in touch with people is part of Fe. However, this is not one of my strengths. For example, I don't keep in touch with people from former jobs. I'm just curious how this compares to most INFJs.
 

Lauren Ashley

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Are you good at keeping in touch with people?

No. And I get berated for it all the time. Sometimes I'm just too busy, lazy, forgetful, fill in the blank. And sometimes it's on purpose.
 
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not really. I try to look forward not back. Unless there is a strong connection with someone, I leave my past behind me. This may be due to the fact that we are future-oriented.
 
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No can't say that I am. I'm often too preoccupied with other affairs to either bother or even remember. *sigh*
 

cascadeco

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Not particularly.

IDK said:
Unless there is a strong connection with someone, I leave my past behind me.

In general true for me - with those I've become friends with, I stay in touch, although communication may be infrequent. With former coworkers/classmates/acquaintances, I guess I just don't see much point in maintaining contact. *shrug*
 

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Once I consider someone a good friend I am very good at keeping in touch with them, even if they live in a different country or I don't see them for several years. Of course there needs to be some kind of at least irregular response from the other person for me to keep staying in touch.

With people that are mere acquaintances I may add them on Facebook to keep a very thin connection, one never knows if one might need the advice or help of a specific person one used to know. I also tend to respond very quickly at least with a short email if one of these people contacts me, I would find it very rude just to ignore them.

A lot of coworkers, classmates etc I don't stay in contact with unless perhaps they want to add me on Facebook. I tend to leave the past behind me without really looking back, unless there was some real connection between me and a person or I feel it might be helpful to have you as a contact I don't see much of a point in staying in touch.
 

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Epic. Fail.

Unless I really, really want to, which doesn't happen often.
 

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I try. Facebook helps. Of course it comes naturally when the person in question is/was a close friend.
 

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The people that are my friends and in my life, yes, acquintances, no
 

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Are you good at keeping in touch with people?

No. And I get berated for it all the time. Sometimes I'm just too busy, lazy, forgetful, fill in the blank. And sometimes it's on purpose.


Ditto this. I am terrible at keeping in touch. :blush: I keep telling myself that I'll be sorry one day, so that usually gets me on the phone.


I hate the phone.
 

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I don't keep in touch. I have a hard enough time keeping up with the people I'm currently friends with to try to keep in touch with people from the past or who've moved away.
 

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this has to be the oddest "unanimous" vote i have EVER seen about a certain type doing ________....

do people get pissed at you guys? like do you ever just "forget" about messages/calls etc until you see these people? Not that everyone *has* to have an excuse, but im sure a lot of you have come up with some crazy excuses/fail proof excuses (share them! :D)
 

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not really. I try to look forward not back. Unless there is a strong connection with someone, I leave my past behind me. This may be due to the fact that we are future-oriented.

Yep
Lauren Ashely - shut up k thanks;)
 
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Score another for no. It doesn't reflect my regard for someone. I think of many people fondly, I just don't really keep in touch.

this has to be the oddest "unanimous" vote i have EVER seen about a certain type doing ________....

do people get pissed at you guys? like do you ever just "forget" about messages/calls etc until you see these people? Not that everyone *has* to have an excuse, but im sure a lot of you have come up with some crazy excuses/fail proof excuses (share them! :D)

No one ever really gets upset with me over it. I do return phone calls. But I don't encourage long social phone calls. I guess people pick up on that. The only person I find it effortless to keep in touch with is the person I'm dating.
 

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I had people get pissed at me for not returning phone calls. "It hurts me when you can't seem to find time to hang out anymore". When there are changes in my life, it's hard for me to keep in touch with people I don't see on a daily basis. I'm living with ESFJ SO and we just had a baby a month ago. My time is spent with them, not on the phone.
 

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:doh: I'm awful about keeping contact with people sometimes. Living in a different state than most of my family and friends sort of takes its toll. Kind of, if I'm not reminded constantly that they exist, I get so caught up in my own business that it might be months before I think to make a phone call or send an e-mail.

It's not that I don't want to keep in touch, but if emails or contact isn't consistently kept up (as in, if I'm not messaged immediately or fairly soon...) I'll forget to keep the flow going.

I'm trying to break that habit now...facebook is helping with that, but after recent family events, we're all trying harder to make sure we don't lose touch again.
 

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I wish I was good at staying in touch with people. Either I fall off other people's radar or they fall off mine. There's usually no ill intent involved.

Do any other INFJs have problems initiating contact with someone they once knew out of the blue? I've thought of doing this, but I'd be at a loss for words if they wanted to know *why* I contacted them. Old time's sake, I guess? :huh:
 

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I don't keep in touch with people well either. It's not out of a lack of thought though. Even people I'm close with have a hard time getting a call or email out of me. I'm always too distracted with other things.
 

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infj are stalkers in their own independant way.
 
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