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    Life is going to smack me hard. IN THE FACE.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    Life is going to smack me hard. IN THE FACE.

    New update to blog going to explain why.
    Then write it in the blog. Don't tease us. Do a Beyoncé.
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    Some company actually sells a fly swatter with a graphite shaft - no more flimsy wire handles. I'm gonna swat these flies at 90 mph.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kierva View Post
    Then write it in the blog. Don't tease us. Do a Beyoncé.
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    An argument is two people sharing their ignorance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    That was a pretty nice video until the end where she lazily equated maturity with putting the needs of others before one's own. I'm usually good at making connections but the one between being a doormat and growing a thicker skin eludes me.

    I'm assuming the advice is meant to apply outside of working in the service industry. If not, then disregard the above.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Hawthorne View Post
    That was a pretty nice video until the end where she lazily equated maturity with putting the needs of others before one's own. I'm usually good at making connections but the one between being a doormat and growing a thicker skin eludes me.

    I'm assuming the advice is meant to apply outside of working in the service industry. If not, then disregard the above.
    In terms of WORK, putting the customers' needs above your own in paramount. It isn't about being a doormat, but about being productive. You can do something really "productive", but if it doesn't actually meet anyone's needs, it isn't productive (except maybe to you). The art of being successful is figuring out how to meet others' needs without putting out a lot of effort on your own part. So, you find something that you love doing and are naturally good at (therefore not a lot of effort on your part to do) that also meets others' needs (therefore you get paid to do it!).
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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    In terms of WORK, putting the customers' needs above your own in paramount. It isn't about being a doormat, but about being productive. You can do something really "productive", but if it doesn't actually meet anyone's needs, it isn't productive (except maybe to you). The art of being successful is figuring out how to meet others' needs without putting out a lot of effort on your own part. So, you find something that you love doing and are naturally good at (therefore not a lot of effort on your part to do) that also meets others' needs (therefore you get paid to do it!).
    If it's just about work then why did she bother mentioning things like safe spaces?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yamato Nadeshiko View Post
    If it's just about work then why did she bother mentioning things like safe spaces?
    Because in real life, there are no such things as "safe spaces".

    Work life has no safe spaces at all, because you are FORCED to work with other people, no matter how disagreeable.
    Home life, unless you live entirely alone, has no safe spaces, because you are forced to live with other people.

    So the only way to have any true safe spaces is to be an unemployed hermit who lives off the land. Or a college student.
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    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    In terms of WORK, putting the customers' needs above your own in paramount. It isn't about being a doormat, but about being productive. You can do something really "productive", but if it doesn't actually meet anyone's needs, it isn't productive (except maybe to you). The art of being successful is figuring out how to meet others' needs without putting out a lot of effort on your own part. So, you find something that you love doing and are naturally good at (therefore not a lot of effort on your part to do) that also meets others' needs (therefore you get paid to do it!).
    Her conclusion was "putting the needs of others before your own is a sign of maturity/personal growth/self-development" not "putting the needs of customers and clients before your own is necessary to be productive and/or successful in your professional life". If she had ended with the second, I wouldn't have taken issue. Instead, she overgeneralized an example into a "universal" life lesson that is far from universal. That over-generalization is the "laziness" that I'm criticizing.

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