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    Quote Originally Posted by Kierva View Post
    In what way are they related?
    3 is 9's integration point. A healthy 9 will display some 3ish qualities.

    though in my case, I will score 1w9 before 3 on any test.
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    Quote Originally Posted by 21lux View Post
    3 is 9's integration point. A healthy 9 will display some 3ish qualities.

    though in my case, I will score 1w9 before 3 on any test.
    I was hoping for something different.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hard View Post
    I complete disagree.

    Sure, that paragraph might be something you identify with, but it doesn't mean that it's your type (Edit: I'd actually argue that the paragraph doesn't sound like E1). It's just a tritype description. You have displayed lots of behavior in your time here, your thought processes, experiences, etc. I have seen close to zero evidence of it stemming from the processes, growth, and dissolution of E1. This is a type I know inside and out, and not just because I am a 1w2. I generally do not speak up about types unless I think they are completely off the mark, but this is one of those cases. I see you as E4 more than anything else. I could potentially see E3, or maybe E9, but not E1.

    It's not unheard of for people to think they are E1 because they are hard on themselves and perfectionistic. However, it's the way that's done that matters, and many types can be that way. In fact, E4's tend to be perfectionists as well. Ask @OrangeAppled as she has gone into great lengths to explain how that manifests.
    After looking back on my childhood, you're right. 1 doesn't come even close. I think how I approach perfectionism is important. I am easily discouraged from schoolwork as soon as something I start struggling. But it's best if I just put it aside and press on and do what I can.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ingrid in grids View Post
    Not that I was asked... But I see you as heart/image triad. I agree with @Hard. e3 or e4 stands out for you most to me.
    3 or 4? Interesting you say 3. I think I may appear 3 definitely as a forum vibe but again when I was young 3 feels like it's probable but not clear. 4, I have no clue for connection when I was young and not more until I started growing up as an adolescent, where it actually felt VERY strong.

    Quote Originally Posted by uumlau View Post
    I get no e1 vibes from you at all. You likely have a 9 fix in the gut triad. As for your main Enneagram type, I think @Ingrid in grids might have a handle on that.
    9 is highly likely as a kid. I was very accommodating and very sweet as a child and women have always called me cute instead of hot.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    women have always called me cute instead of hot
    Gay man included.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kierva View Post
    Gay man included.
    This is true. Men have too flirted with me as well, but you're the only man who has called me cute.
    I am dripping in Finesse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    This is true. Men have too flirted with me as well, but you're the only man who has called me cute.
    That's cute.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    3 or 4? Interesting you say 3. I think I may appear 3 definitely as a forum vibe but again when I was young 3 feels like it's probable but not clear. 4, I have no clue for connection when I was young and not more until I started growing up as an adolescent, where it actually felt VERY strong.
    I'm not an expert on type (or you!); I argue for 3 or 4 based on the themes that I see arising from your posts here. Image seems to be something you value quite strongly, and image also appears to contribute significantly to the value you attribute to others. You also seem to have an intuitive grasp on personal branding. I'm not sure whether I'd place you as 3w4 or 4w3.

    I read somewhere that 3s are one of the most common to misidentify as other types. I have seen you identify as a slew of other types during your time here, usually on facets of your personality or experiences, rather than underlying drive: e.g., perfectionist streak means 1, a kind or pleasant disposition means 9, an intellectual bent means 5, etc.

    Quote Originally Posted by Forever View Post
    9 is highly likely as a kid. I was very accommodating and very sweet as a child and women have always called me cute instead of hot.
    I'd be wary of looking to certain behaviours in childhood as evidence of enneatype in themselves. I have met adult 8s who claimed to have been sweet, sensitive and accomodating in childhood too.

    Also, different enneatypes throughout life kind of goes against the enneagram's psychoanalytic approach to assessing personality. The theory is centred on the idea that certain experiences or trauma in childhood inform the beliefs and coping strategies an individual develops later in life. It's categorical, not a matter of degree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by geedoenfj View Post


    My iPhone finally been saved, yay!
    it's still working!
    I knew I shouldn't have told you about that app which makes your phone respond to squeezes and can be used to measure forces. I was afraid you might do something like this.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Ingrid in grids View Post
    I'm not an expert on type (or you!); I argue for 3 or 4 based on the themes that I see arising from your posts here. Image seems to be something you value quite strongly, and image also appears to contribute significantly to the value you attribute to others. You also seem to have an intuitive grasp on personal branding. I'm not sure whether I'd place you as 3w4 or 4w3.

    I read somewhere that 3s are one of the most common to misidentify as other types. I have seen you identify as a slew of other types during your time here, usually on facets of your personality or experiences, rather than underlying drive: e.g., perfectionist streak means 1, a kind or pleasant disposition means 9, an intellectual bent means 5, etc.



    I'd be wary of looking to certain behaviours in childhood as evidence of enneatype in themselves. I have met adult 8s who claimed to have been sweet, sensitive and accomodating in childhood too.

    Also, different enneatypes throughout life kind of goes against the enneagram's psychoanalytic approach to assessing personality. The theory is centred on the idea that certain experiences or trauma in childhood inform the beliefs and coping strategies an individual develops later in life. It's categorical, not a matter of degree.
    Hmm. So when I was young, I hoped to be everybody's friend now that I think about it. I wanted to have a good image of how people saw me. I was the good boy. If I messed up I usually was very hard on myself more than people would be. But I'm pretty good at not stay depressed for too long unless it's been too consistent.

    I guess the 3's thing is that they work very hard at maintaining their image and will not stop working. When I get depressed I procrastinate I imagine and I curl up sometimes just sulking unnecessarily. I even get aware to the point of why am I doing this and then I just stare into blank space.

    When I was in 5th grade I acted goofy so that all the guys liked me and they did but that was only for one year and idk wtf was up with middle school but suddenly I was a hero to a zero.

    So I could be a 3 without having to work tirelessly? I think about others all the time. I even thought if I had to go back and redo high school, I would've taken drama classes.

    Ok you're starting to sound real convincing ingrids but so was another member at vent last night saying I was a core 9. Although for most times as a 9 I don't relate to 8 or 1 really except when I get into certain moods.

    I guess my perfectionistic is to impress others and not really for myself. I could care less what I think if everyone else is loving it. But still needs to be authentic. Like I'd hate to be liked for something over popularized like Star Wars because it's then that not really me. Also I do agree I have narcissistic tendencies but definitely not a narcissist myself.

    I always felt like I could flip the switch and get people to love me but at the end of the day it was my goal to get people to like me for who I truly was and I would go on in depression for the sake of it and avoid all those who liked the image of me but rather those that loved me for who I was.

    I did also tend to go for women who dressed well or were good looking and fit a cool personality type. Although when I was younger I was too needy or desperate to get them to like me. It wasn't until I was college age I could master the personality of a suave man but it feels so unnatural.
    I am dripping in Finesse.

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