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    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    Why?

    Edit: Oh my. Let's say that person was an ISFP?
    If I disliked said person, I'd want to have as little to do with them as possible, successful or otherwise. If it was someone I liked but who had hurt me, I'd let them know (and likely feel a glow of pleasure inside at the prospect of doing so) but I still wouldn't want to rub it in their face. Just a "Hey, I did it after all" heads up.

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    @highlander - Oh, we keep quoting each other at the worst times.

    What about the person being an ISFP?

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    Quote Originally Posted by senza_tema View Post
    If I disliked said person, I'd want to have as little to do with them as possible, successful or otherwise. If it was someone I liked but who had hurt me, I'd let them know (and likely feel a glow of pleasure inside at the prospect of doing so) but I still wouldn't want to rub it in their face. Just a "Hey, I did it after all" heads up.
    Interesting.

    Let's say you didn't dislike this person. Let's say this successful person were the one rubbing it into your face. Let's say you had hurt them in the past. It wasn't insignificant. How would you respond to this?

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    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    Interesting.

    Let's say you didn't dislike this person. Let's say this successful person were the one rubbing it into your face. Let's say you had hurt them in the past. It wasn't insignificant. How would you respond to this?
    I'd feel shame, resentment, and respect in varying quantities depending on the circumstances. I guess I'd congratulate them and then try to move on. No need to act more ungraciously than I already did before, and I understand the urge to crow over someone who's pissed you off in the past, even though it's not the most worthy impulse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zarathustra View Post
    The correct answer is a mixture of these two.

    The desire for revenge is an immature psychological drive.

    The desire for justice, however, is not.

    Seek justice, not revenge.

    And learn to discern the difference.
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    Believe it or not, I'm well aware of this issue.

    It was part and parcel of why I wrote what I wrote.

    I've already been through that stage.

    There's a stage beyond it.
    How about enlightening everyone then on the difference? You haven't explained/reasoned your claims; you only state them as fact by claiming revenge and justice are different. Your pride masks a self-love that condescends the intellect of your audience when you can't be bothered to support your arguments properly.

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    I like those two quotes:

    Quote Originally Posted by Survive & Stay Free View Post
    On topic.

    On success being the best form of revenge, here's an awesome quote:

    “If you wait by the river long enough, the bodies of your enemies will float by.”
    ― Sun Tzu
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    Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.
    Well, everyone dies. I don't think success is revenge at all, in the sense that success is better pursued in a different frame of mind that doesn't reduce it to "revenge". I don't think revenge in and of itself is "ignoble", but:

    Quote Originally Posted by highlander View Post
    Interesting.

    Let's say you didn't dislike this person. Let's say this successful person were the one rubbing it into your face. Let's say you had hurt them in the past. It wasn't insignificant. How would you respond to this?
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    I'd feel shame, resentment, and respect in varying quantities depending on the circumstances. I guess I'd congratulate them and then try to move on. No need to act more ungraciously than I already did before, and I understand the urge to crow over someone who's pissed you off in the past, even though it's not the most worthy impulse.
    Like I was saying, I don't think revenge in and of itself is "ignoble", but if someone I had hurt came to me later and tried to rub their success in my face, so to speak, I would feel like the person's "success" was misspent time and energy, and I would wonder if the person was really as satisfied with it as I was supposed to believe. I would rather that those I have hurt make the best of their lives that they can, and not worry about what I think of them, because my opinion of their "success" isn't important; their lives are.

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    Nope, not even a little (for me anyway). Unless their wrongdoing has properly been reprimanded it will still bother me.
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    If I achieve something, I'd rather derive enjoyment from the process of the project and bypassing my own limitations.
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    The list of people I'd like to have revenge on just gets longer by the day.

    The sorts of revenge I contemplate these days are way out of proportion to what I once would thought of as reasonable, I'm not sure why time has done that really. I like to read threads like these occasionally because I think the posts I put up were reflective of a more optimistic and reasonable version of my self than I am at the moment and perhaps I'll recover that former self in time.

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    I remember starting this thread. I'm at a difference place now (mostly). That was a difficult year.

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