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    I've gotten worse but I've taken several significant blows to my self-esteem, so I think it's a matter of healing that and getting back to the old me who would proudly proclaim "I have no shame" after doing weird things around others with confidence.

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    The actual answer to this thread is alcohol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by EcK View Post
    The actual answer to this thread is alcohol.
    It does help. I went through my first year or two in college using that as my main medium.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cascadeco View Post
    It does help. I went through my first year or two in college using that as my main medium.
    ....but I'm assuming here that you don't want to end up alcoholic just because you need to be more social
    I've suffered a lot in college, when I decided to leave my comfort zone and started talking more to people. It was like taking one step forward and two back while trying to climb a mountain. I have been embarrassed and misunderstood a million times.
    These are things that helped:
    Asking questions about people's interests, etc. And listening to them talk mainly about themselves. If they hit a topic that I was interested in, or could tell a story about, then I would do some of the talking, and leave the rest to the other person.
    Watching ( smart) BBC sitcoms helped me to emulate an appropriate stance about when to laugh and when to stay quiet...when to pitch in and when to smile....IDK, it might not work for all, but for me it did....
    But I feel that, if you are very introverted, be prepared to make a fool of yourself at times, and afterwards just shrug it off and analyze what you would do different next time. Then keep going and trying again and again. The more you do it, the better you will be at it.
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    In high school, it was more of "observe how they behave and learn from it".
    In uni, I don't know how, maybe because it's a far more welcoming and intellectual environment, with more like minded people, I stopped feeling socially inept, to the point of almost looking extrovert at times. Also alcohol helped. And ENTPs who drag me around and help me come out of the shell.
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    Being an introvert does not necessarily mean that you possess bad socialization skills.
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    Where is it now, the glory and the dream?"



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    Making people talk about the things they care about can be a good start.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    I have always approached socializing from almost a professional perspective, even when I was still growing up and in school. By this I mean that, when engaging with someone, I always had a clear idea of what I wanted out of the interaction, and it was usually something like information, help with a project, for them to show me how to do something, etc. Or, I could be offering to help them or share what I know. In any case, focusing on this made me more comfortable and confident in the exchange, and reassured me that I wouldn't be wasting their time, or mine.
    This is exactly what I did as well. Plan in advance, execute, reap the rewards or change the plan or execution and you'll hit the target eventually. I found that it was easier to distance myself and act almost like a robot. In professional setting this works very well but friendships and informal interactions never stick too long with this approach.

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    Quote Originally Posted by EightyTwo View Post
    This is exactly what I did as well. Plan in advance, execute, reap the rewards or change the plan or execution and you'll hit the target eventually. I found that it was easier to distance myself and act almost like a robot. In professional setting this works very well but friendships and informal interactions never stick too long with this approach.
    I have noticed, but cannot say it bothers me.
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    *shrugs* my trick was shutting up and paying attention... anything else was either intuitive or a matter of trial and error... i choose my battles, and only tackle what will end well (when that is possible)... i keep my expectations low and play the odds... when you need to deal with someone difficult, choose a weak point and/or prepare to deal with some fallout... there is no need to get along with everyone, and becoming comfortable with that helps a lot... that said, there is nothing wrong with trying a little to have pleasant interactions...
    " 'Cause life's a game, life's a joke
    Fuck it, why not go for broke?
    Trade in all your chips and learn how to be free
    Why abstain? Why jump in line?
    We're all living on borrowed time
    So do what you like
    And we'll like what you do when you do it
    And if they don't that's fine
    Fuck 'em!"

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