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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    I find his response excessive, especially for something so trivial.

    I think it was a little excessive as well considering that I am generally mindful of his work and will not bother him when I know he’s busy. I can only assume that he was either in a very stressful situation and/or was already angry/annoyed with something or someone as he has never in over two years “spoken” to me in that way. I like the format of your suggested approach, and will be using it. Thank you so much.

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    We’ve worked it out. He misinterpreted my response as being snarky or last-word-itis. Which it wasn’t of course. But he thought it was. We talked. I made it clear to him that while we joke and push at each other, I would never do that in regards to his job. We made a plan for going forward. And all is good.

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    Assuming one is being passive-aggresive when they aren’t is always projecting. Personally, I’d be gone after s7ch an incident.
    ...but then you aren’t me.
    “ they’re on our left, they’re on our right, they’re in front of us, they’re behind us…they can’t get away this time”
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    Quote Originally Posted by Coriolis View Post
    I find his response excessive, especially for something so trivial. Apparently he is too busy to read a thumbs up from you, but not too busy to text back in all caps. (You could point out the illogic of his own behavior . . . later, when he is not busy and is in a better mood.) Seriously, I would just tell him later that you didn't mean to be a pest, you only wanted him to know that you got the message. Ask him what you should have done instead to confirm receipt/understanding, or if he perhaps feels it is not necessary to confirm. This is actually a decent formula for many things that may upset or annoy an INTJ: wait until the situation is over, then explain why you did what you did, and ask how he would prefer it be handled in future. A willingness to do better in future is worth much more than a standard apology to most INTJs from what I have seen.
    all of this .... His response would make me mad...I am actually mad at him now and mentally throwing a shoe on your behalf..But this is why i do not understand why Enfp and Intjs are supposed to work so well. they can-be so self righteous.
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    I would say, shut up and start talking the next day rather, starting by noon'ish

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    Why apologize to a friend, what the actual hell. What.

    You are never forced to be in a relationship with anyone, doesn't matter the years.

    Nvm, not my problem.
    I'm always apologizing for feeling like I'm outta my mind when I'm doing just fine.

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