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    Default Feeling Bittersweet after Ending Friendship with INTJ

    So I feel mixed (sad but relieved) about basically ending my friendship after a year and a half.

    I don't know what to think. Was it unfair for me to end the friendship?

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    Personally Id say nah you didn't do wrong as if you don't feel you are connecting and enjoying a relationship then there's no point in dragging it out. Personally I would in a case similar to yours deregulate them intimacy wise like from close friend to buddy so to speak but then that could be crueller long run than just dropping them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lord Lavender View Post
    Personally Id say nah you didn't do wrong as if you don't feel you are connecting and enjoying a relationship then there's no point in dragging it out. Personally I would in a case similar to yours deregulate them intimacy wise like from close friend to buddy so to speak but then that could be crueller long run than just dropping them.
    Yeah, I tried to decrease the intimacy but we kept getting back into the same place.

    The last time we hung out, he kept trying to ask about my life and job but I didn't feel very compelled and then we talked about his dates. It was as if we really didn't have much to talk about.

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    What did you tell him when you broke up?

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    UPDATE: I somehow managed to put the friendship on an official "hiatus" vs. permanently ending it.

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    UPDATE: I restarted the friendship because I just missed him so bad. I still can't believe that I walked away twice but he still accepted me back with open arms. I got to hand it to the INTJ... the loyalty is strong.

    I put it in clear terms and he agreed not to talk about his dating and sex life and lack of motivation. ☺️
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