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    Default I dont know what to do regarding this ISTJ I like

    well I met this girl a lil more than a week ago, and I know for a fact she's an ISTJ (I've been talking to her about psychology-related topics and stuff cuz she majored in it and everything)

    and I, being an INFJ, have lots of trouble talking to her lately, I mean we text everyday for the past week or more, and the conversation starts when we wake up, and lasts up throughout the day till we go to sleep ALMOST everyday.. she texts first aswell and everything and we agreed that we wont play games because neither of us like or need that, with absolutely ZERO ego and all..

    I've told her that Im starting to like her, and even asked her out, she said yes but we didn't set a proper date due to her studies and ability to go out only on weekends..

    I know she's the light-headed type , the one who needs time and absolutely no pressure regarding the subject of dating ;etc,

    Why the hell do I feel bad about telling her I think about her, or want to see her already so f***** much? I'm really a lot colder and even ICE-COLD I'd say to ppl, but she just brought these things out of me, Cant stop thinking about her I feel like I just ache to see her already.. But then again, she didn't even tell me when does she want to meet and go out..

    how can I handle all this situation, I dont wanna push and pressure her and make her distant, LATELY, and more specifically after I talked to her about how I feel and what I really want, we're started talking about the more daily-routine and mundane things and topics, about what happened to either of us today, who we talked to what we did, and all these kind of things, I'm afraid it'll bore her to death before we get a chance to even go out see each other and be together a bit, I need it ASAP cuz Im a person who feels and finds connecting and bonding to ppl a lot easier when in person, face to face

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    Since she texts you first, there's a good chance you're not boring her. Take it slow and set a date, but don't push.
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    Quote Originally Posted by agentwashington View Post
    Since she texts you first, there's a good chance you're not boring her. Take it slow and set a date, but don't push.
    its fine conversation-wise, but I need more than that, something beyond just constant texting obviously u know..
    I know that the ISTJ (and also TAURUS) type cant stand being stressed and pushed into making decisions and taking action but.. I feel like these 8-9 days of texting made me realize we just need to meet up because right now texting doesnt benefit me, AT ALL..

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    folks?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Voican View Post
    its fine conversation-wise, but I need more than that, something beyond just constant texting obviously u know..
    I know that the ISTJ (and also TAURUS) type cant stand being stressed and pushed into making decisions and taking action but.. I feel like these 8-9 days of texting made me realize we just need to meet up because right now texting doesnt benefit me, AT ALL..
    Would you mind elaborating?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gentleman Jack View Post
    Would you mind elaborating?
    about how I dont feel texting with her would benefit me from now on? or what?

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    My husband is an ISTJ and a Taurus. (I’m an ENFP and a Leo.)

    My advice would be to just take it slow. Build connection. And build trust. Don’t reveal your feelings too quickly. I know that NFs have a tendency to fall hard and fast when there’s connection, but refrain from doing so. Take time to develop something substantial and stable and intimate. Let her warm-up to you.

    Be friends for a few months before making a move.
    “I touch people. I think everyone needs that.”

    “I don’t go by the rule-book. I lead from the heart, not the head.”

    “I think the biggest disease the world suffers in this day and age is the disease of people feeling unloved. I know that I can give love for a minute, for half an hour, for a day, for a month. I’m very happy to do that. I want to do that.”

    “I wear my heart on my sleeve.”


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    Or you could just ask her to hang out.

    You've nothing to lose, and she will respect you more for telling her what you want.

    I find that by asking people for what I want, including in the sphere of romance, I more often end up getting what I want.

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