If someone injures you, what should your response be?

[Lark]

If someone injuries you how should you respond? Consider that it is grievously but not so much as to make it impossible to respond.

 

[Virtual ghost]

I think that intentions really matter here. :smartass:

 

[Sacrophagus]

If you're feeling generous, look at the injurious subject with disdain, frown upon its existence by raising an eyebrow and just carry on with your day.

 

[Obfuscate]

i think the nature of the injury, how/why it was inflicted, the nature of the relationship (if any) that exists, percieved consequences of action or inaction, and likely a dozen or so other things ought to be considered...

show us on the doll where they hurt you... okay, that wasn't that funny... seriously though, are you doing okay?

 

[Maou]

If someone emotionally hurts me, I shut down and leave generally afterwards, and avoid that person for a while. Sometimes playing it off. If I cannot leave and continue to be confronted, I sometimes try to shut down the conversation and state why. Sometimes lashing out if its injust or violates one of my principles. Though this lashing out fills me with negativity and irritation. If someone has gotten under my skin, I react with anger and lose all trust for someone. I like to consider myself emotionally strong, but sometimes I can feel too intense.

Being physically harmed trips a primal switch in me (and 22 years of repressed anger), that throws me into a psychotic rage. Though I can resist doing something irreversible, I know how violent, cold, and intoxicating my anger can be. It would result in serious injury, if not death if I snapped.

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

It can help to ask the question of self respect. What response helps you walk away with your sense of self intact?

If a person inflicts pain/harm and I respond to them, do I go away with self-respect or does it make me feel like they powered over me again, or that I was forced to appease them? If it makes me feel that I took the higher road and go away with self-respect then I'll respond.

 

[Coriolis]

i think the nature of the injury, how/why it was inflicted, the nature of the relationship (if any) that exists, percieved consequences of action or inaction, and likely a dozen or so other things ought to be considered...

I was thinking along similar lines. In general, my approach would be to start by treating the injury/problem to prevent further damage and correct damage done. Then identifying the cause and taking steps to prevent recurrence. What exactly these steps entail depends on the factors you mentioned.

 

[Lark]

i think the nature of the injury, how/why it was inflicted, the nature of the relationship (if any) that exists, percieved consequences of action or inaction, and likely a dozen or so other things ought to be considered...

show us on the doll where they hurt you... okay, that wasn't that funny... seriously though, are you doing okay?

Yeah. This is just an abstract question.

 

[Kanra Jest]

Emotional: I'll confront them about it, and if they won't humor why they did what they did then I'll distance myself and numb them out because it's clearly not worth it
Physically: Depends on what happened and why and who did it

 

[Forever]

Is this a shit test? lol

 

[The Cat]

 

[Lark]

Klaus is one of my favourite characters from TV.

I really, really wish that they would give him his own TV show. Like Archer or something.

 

[Bush]

For severe, intentional, intangible emotional injuries or whatever, eye for an eye and/or doorslamming.

There's an "I ain't got time for this shit" aspect there, but clearly I do have at least some time for that shit if I'm out for blood.

 

[Stigmata]

Intent matters greatly to me.

If you harm me, physically or emotionally, unintentionally, despite hurting, I find it very easy to forgive and move on so long as they acknowledge it and apologize -- it's done, over with, and we're going to continue on as we were with no passive resentment.

If someone hurts me and they are ill-intended, I can be very vindictive and will make it a mission to seek revenge even if the opportunity to do so is not immediately present. That's one aspect about myself that I recognize as a real negative, yet I operate on such a "live and let live" philosophy that if you do severe enough to merit that response from me, chances are you've done something to really deserve it.

 

[oxyjen]

Whatever my lawyer recommends as the best course of action.

 

[Coriolis]

Intent matters greatly to me.

If you harm me, physically or emotionally, unintentionally, despite hurting, I find it very easy to forgive and move on so long as they acknowledge it and apologize -- it's done, over with, and we're going to continue on as we were with no passive resentment.

An apology to me is just words. Worthless unless backed up by taking responsibility, understanding why they did what they did and how to prevent it in future, and doing what they can to make things right. If they do all of that, the apology itself is unnecessary. If they don't, it is meaningless.

 

[rav3n]

Context matters.

 

[Stigmata]

An apology to me is just words. Worthless unless backed up by taking responsibility, understanding why they did what they did and how to prevent it in future, and doing what they can to make things right. If they do all of that, the apology itself is unnecessary. If they don't, it is meaningless.

Perhaps I should clarify.

An apologize in and of itself is meaningless if not genuine. Acknowledging the wrongdoing is most important, followed by some attempt to rectify the situation (a direct apology can be sufficient, yet other methods of rectification are acceptable)