Fear: Can Fears Along With Phobias be beaten? What is the Best Avenue of Approach When Trying to Overcome Fear?
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"The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek." Joseph Campbell
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"Men are not prisoners of fate, but only prisoners of their own minds." Franklin D. Roosevelt
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"To stand in the fire of your deepest fears in passionate pursuit of your highest dreams is to rise to the realm of the legends." - Robin Sharma
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10-10-2018, 05:49 AM #1
Fear: What is the Best Avenue of Approach When Trying to Overcome Fear?
LightSun Paul Peaceweaver
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10-10-2018, 02:53 PM #2
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Consider the definition of courage. It's not about having no fears, it's about pushing through fear, in order to take the right action.
“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.”
― Frank Herbert, Dune
Unless it's a healthy fear, like fear of poisonous spiders, I practice exposure therapy on myself. An example would be my fear of heights. I deliberately stand on the edge in glass elevators where it's safe but still triggers my fear. This way, the irrational fear won't prevent me from skiing since I love the sport. Decent skiing requires chair lifts and even on the chairlifts, I force myself to look downwards.
Don't forget that fear is a healthy emotion since it prevents you from doing stupid things. It's when it's irrational, hence preventing you from living a full life, that you need to get a handle on it.
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10-10-2018, 02:58 PM #3
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Fear canbe good if apportioned appropriately. Be more afraid of the stuff that'll happen to you if you avoid doing the scary thing than the scary thing.
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10-10-2018, 04:53 PM #4
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10-11-2018, 05:21 PM #5
For me fear is more or less just a consequence of the lack of understanding how things work.
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10-11-2018, 08:02 PM #6
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10-12-2018, 04:17 AM #7
That is why I said "for me". Once I have understanding or at least general understanding I can just push through and start to convince everyone that needs to be convinced. Since understanding means that you can establish full control over the situation.
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10-12-2018, 03:30 PM #8
It's hard to do things you're afraid of doing. Starting the thing is tough enough, but it doesn't get any easier the whole way through. It's kind of like trying to operate heavy machinery while drunk. Hyper vigilance and glass brittle tension aren't always the best psychological lubricants for braving new things- and often make you a lot worse at the thing than you normally would be. Silver lining- if you can manage to pull it off once, that's as bad as you're going to do at it. All further efforts will get better/easier, just have to grab your sack and get over the first hill.
There's really only one fear, and that's the unknown (which includes injury/death). Get over it by learning via experience (knowledge almost counts, but it's really just a poor man's version of experience). Save death for last, though. That's an OK fear to keep until then.lightsun liked this post
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