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Nice isn't kind

Haven

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I'll take insincere niceness over whatever fuckery disco thinks is kindness
 

Luigi

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Nice and kind are not the same thing. Nice is.... I drape my true feelings in the mannered rhetoric of polite society to maintain civil comity.
This is kind in a shallow way, where most of the intent here is to maintain ones place in respectable society, I know I feel that way. To the extent that any of us can tie our motivations to anything as distant as altruism on a societal scale nice is kind.
Kind is I do something for someone else and do so for reasons that are actually more altruistic than selfish.
The desire for the legitimacy that comes with maintaining one's seat in "polite" society, is one of the greediest forces at work in our world today.

Your point is that being nice means you want something in return, but being kind means it just makes you feel better. Is that about right?
 

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Close enough

I noticed your MBTI is not on your avatar or your profile. Either you know it and don't want to disclose it, or you're not sure.
Would you mind telling me which one it is, simply because I'm curious?
 

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[MENTION=35148]Isk Stark[/MENTION] a wolf head, wow :shock:
 

Forever_Jung

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Sometimes I think you can be fake nice without it being self-serving. Sometimes it's just being pragmatic and even principled.I think you should treat people nicely even if you dislike them. And why not put out good feelings into the environment? Why sow discord in an attempt to be "real", if being "real" doesn't help the situation? Why should you make other people feel bad for no reason, or seek out unnecessary/petty battles?

I think sometimes I do toe the line of social niceties, just to gain acceptance and to be looked upon favourably, and I think it's kind of gross. But usually, when it counts, I speak up.
 

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Sometimes I think you can be fake nice without it being self-serving. Sometimes it's just being pragmatic and even principled.I think you should treat people nicely even if you dislike them. And why not put out good feelings into the environment? Why sow discord in an attempt to be "real", if being "real" doesn't help the situation? Why should you make other people feel bad for no reason, or seek out unnecessary/petty battles?

I think sometimes I do toe the line of social niceties, just to gain acceptance and to be looked upon favourably, and I think it's kind of gross. But usually, when it counts, I speak up.

now I'm thinking you're an Fe user :thinking:
 

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:dry:

Yeah, I guess it's safe to say I use Fe based on that post. But does that invalidate my point? Do you disagree with me? C'mon, hit Fe with your best shot!

I can't see anything you said that I disagree with. Of course it doesn't refute your point, I digressed lol
 

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I can't see anything you said that I disagree with. Of course it doesn't refute your point, I digressed lol

Okay, just checking. :)

It was a funny comment, if that helps (or am I being fake nice???? :shock:)
 

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Okay, just checking. :)

It was a funny comment, if that helps (or am I being fake nice???? :shock:)

I wasn't trying to be funny, just sharing my observation lol

I'll take fake nice over real ugliness any day :D
 
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If I was nice, I would not have said it.
 
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