I said Christianity because that is the choice I made. I didn't say you had to choose it. And I've been around many religious people to know which religion is right for me. I've seen Catholics, I've seen Christians, I've seen Buddhists, etc.
Why get married then if people aren't going to honor their vows? That's what religion is about. It's not trapping someone, it's supposed to be working through problems rather than replacing someone because things got tough. If someone was true to their religion, I don't think they would be an abusive person. If someone claims to be a Christian but is abusive, then he/she isn't a true Christian.
I see a friend of mine who is a Christian couple, both her and her husband are and they are there for each other in every sense of the religion.
Ah, I understood that you weren't saying I had to choose it. It just kind of rubbed me wrong when I read the title and instantly correct church was brought into it, I suppose. Where I live is not exactly Christian/Catholic-centric so it would be going to right mosque here than right church. It is not a major thing, but I simply wanted to point out that it could be another religion related community which could be correct for someone else.
I am glad that you found what religion is right for you with actually thinking about it, I respect that a lot.
Hm... I suppose there was a communication mistake, then. I took the way you wrote at the thread starter post as in "they stay even if they want to leave out of feeling they are duty bound" rather than "there is a stronger will to try and see if things work out". In the first case, that would imply that they weren't happy with it but feel trapped by a vow they made and it would most likely be the case of a later figured out major issue that would be quite the problem and now didn't want to make it "work out" just from a sense of duty-boundness. (Which, in most cases, would have at least one type of abuse in it.) In second case, it might be for better or worse. If the relationship you were talking about was between two person true to their religion in the way you described, then yes, there is a chance this could work out well. But still, I think we both have quite different views on marriage from the start- what it means for both people involved in it as well as how it would relate to vowing to a God etc.
I see it more as something two people decides on and would carry on with until their lifes becomes quite incompatible with each other/if both would at some point start to feel more negative emotions-resentment towards each other and staying together would be more of a torture than anything. If that doesn't happen and they are willing to keep going and make it work, with or without religious connection, it could work out fairly well, in my opinion. But again, differing views.
And well, if that's how you define a true Christian, I would have to agree- Any major religion I heard/researched about is strongly against being abusive to others so that actually should be a belief held by any followers of said religions, including Christians, I believe.
I am glad that it works out so fine for them, really.
