Lashing Out leading to Release of Anger leading to...Love
I sense and know instinctively that sometimes letting someone you love hurt you, can open a wellspring of love in them that was previously blocked. I just got this feeling today of how important and pertinent this is. I think sometimes this is the only answer. It occurs to me that this is perhaps why Jesus teaches this hard saying, "If someone strikes you on one cheek, offer to him the other also." Because Jesus knew and understood this. By hurting others who do not resist, I believe those hurting souls can be unlocked from their prison of repressed feeling-emotions.
I think that is mostly why I have been identifying as a masochist for a while now. Because I want the ones I love to hurt me, hurt me in every way, including sexually and physically, emotionally and psychologically, so that they might be released from deep anguish and pain--and love--that is blocked up deep inside.
Of course, usually abuse is a cycle. I understand this and have even been trained in it. I'm not saying intensive counseling to overcome life hurts and unprocessed pain are not necessary, they are. But there are special times when people are so locked away from their feelings that to feel anything, even anger, is difficult.
In our world we teach self protection and abandonment of a partner who hurts us. I do not agree with this, though perhaps a temporary distance is necessary for the well-being of both.
~thank you
