Does your Mom think you are cool?

[Mole]

As we start to individuate, we face the problem of how to end our emotional and financial dependence on our mother.

It is too big a step to take at once so we substitute our peer group for our mother. And cults like mbti provide us with a substitute mother as we slowly and painfully move towards our individuation.

The peer group is a fantasy mother, and we don't want to be rudely woken from our fantasy with mere facts.

But we start to succeed in our individuation when we start to prefer fact to fantasy.

 

[Mole]

Almost all mothers and fathers adore their children. This is why we have laws against nepotism.

And we gain our self esteem from how others see us, self esteem is given to us, while we earn self respect.

 

[Yuurei]

Almost all mothers and fathers adore their children. This is why we have laws against nepotism.

And we gain our self esteem from how others see us, self esteem is given to us, while we earn self respect.

Love- of course. Adore-hardly.

I've never had a relationship with my Mother at all. Which probably says a lot about the difference between my sister and me.

 

[highlander]

She said I was different than a lot of people - complex, not simple

 

[Coriolis]

She said I was different than a lot of people - complex, not simple

Mine said much the same, but was too old school to use terms like "cool". She recognized in me some innate drive always to expect more of myself than anyone else did, and to achieve it. To this day, one of my basic values is that if something is worth doing at all, it is worth doing well.

 

[Mole]

Mine said much the same, but was too old school to use terms like "cool". She recognized in me some innate drive always to expect more of myself than anyone else did, and to achieve it. To this day, one of my basic values is that if something is worth doing at all, it is worth doing well.

I confess my confessor. Fr Bell. told me, anything worth doing is worth doing badly. And as it transpires, I am not terribly competent, so I have taken Fr Bell's advice to heart.

 

[Coriolis]

I confess my confessor. Fr Bell. told me, anything worth doing is worth doing badly. And as it transpires, I am not terribly competent, so I have taken Fr Bell's advice to heart.

You of all people - trusting a priest?

 

[Mole]

My mother told me to learn to give orders I must first learn to take orders, so I became a hippy, grew my hair down to my waist and lived in sin with my girlfriend. I dropped out entirely, and lived in a converted hut, for five dollars a week, on the campus of the Australian National University, in a beautiful location with lake water on either side, under the shade of a spreading Elm.

I would like to say it was more than I deserved, but I can't avoid the fact I did it myself.

 

[Mole]

You of all people - trusting a priest?

He was our disciplinarian, but surprisingly erudite, with a wonderful sense of humour, and exquisite taste. I remember him singing a song about an egg to the whole assembled school, while perfectly poised.

 

[Coriolis]

He was our disciplinarian, but surprisingly erudite, with a wonderful sense of humour, and exquisite taste. I remember him singing a song about an egg to the whole assembled school, while perfectly poised.

 

[Smilephantomhive]

No, she's dead.

 

[I Tonya]

No, she's dead.

Sorry for your loss, but also I like your honesty.

 

[I Tonya]

No, my mom said she doesn't think I'm cool because I love to argue about everything, and I act like a know-it-all; she still thinks I'm pretty though.

Wait a minute, my mom just texted an addendum to her previous comments about me, and she included her Christmas wishlist. Now, she's saying, "I think you're my coolest daughter. I can't imagine my life without you. You make the world a better place."

DOES SHE RLY? I like you and ur mom stories.

 

[Neal Caffreynated]

Of course she thinks I'm cool since I'm the confident, relaxed and extroverted type - and she loves the fact I'm an Art student, because honestly what is cooler than searching for looted Impressionist paintings?

I guess I'm the coolest of the family anyway bc my brother is kind of a nerd and I'm more laid-back than my sister

 

[Coriolis]

The real question, though, is: do you think your Mom is cool?

 

[I Tonya]

The real question, though, is: do you think your Mom is cool?

Absolutely not. She's a user and abuser. Always trying to get money from my sistesrs through manipulation. She doesn't work cuz she's a traditionalist, expects my dad to pay for everything when he doesn't have a high paying job. Its ok to have standards but its terrible to demand it from others who cancan't really.

 

[prplchknz]

The real question, though, is: do you think your Mom is cool?

yes. and so do my friends. she doesn't think she's cool.

I dunno if she thinks i'm cool or not.

 

[Luminous]

I'm pretty sure my mom and I both think the other is cool.

My dad probably doesn't think I'm cool, but well... how is an INFP going to outcool an ISTP father?

 

[StrawberryBoots]

DOES SHE RLY? I like you and ur mom stories.

Thank you, Borns. My mom is a genuinely kind soul with the gift of repartee. I love her very much.

 

[sLiPpY]

hmm...last time a pile of poo plopped out of my anus? You know what!?! That SH*T was REALLY COOL! It even swam! Without any assistance or training at all! err...Fiber!