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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    She sends me other emails too though from the same email address.

    Plus, she's actually one of my best friends. I'm not looking to ignore her.
    just explain to her that you are donating because you're her friend and aren't interested in other such things... other choice? keep getting the emails

    and that's why I always provide fake email addresses when I donate
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    Okay, I think I know what's going on. I think she just wants to show or express her gratitude and she assumes that this is the way I want to receive it. I'll just tell her how I want to receive it instead. Not that it's necessary for me anyway, but she seems to want to.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    One of my friends is quite religious and has a religious charity.

    I told her that I'd donate every month (only really because she's my friend and I want to support her).

    Now, she's telling me that I will start to notice that all my wants/desires/prayers/dreams, etc. will start to come true because I am donating now.



    How do I make her stop saying that without offending her?
    Tell her God's will be done, which may not necessarily involve that.
    All for ourselves, and nothing for other people, seems, in every age of the world, to have been the vile maxim of the masters of mankind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    Okay, I think I know what's going on. I think she just wants to show or express her gratitude and she assumes that this is the way I want to receive it. I'll just tell her how I want to receive it instead. Not that it's necessary for me anyway, but she seems to want to.
    What if she turns out to be right though? Is this like a subscription deal? I wonder what the packages are like, dreams of a lifetime, childhood dreams, day dreams, other dreams?
    All for ourselves, and nothing for other people, seems, in every age of the world, to have been the vile maxim of the masters of mankind.
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    whether or not you credit psychoanalysis itself, the fact remains that we all must, to the greatest extent possible, understand one another's minds as our own; the very survival of humanity has always depended on it. - Open Culture

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    And what if her wants, desires, and dreams are for decidedly un-Biblical things like sex with a different hot stranger every night for a week until she runs away with her handsome prince the following week?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Marmie Dearest View Post
    And what if her wants, desires, and dreams are for decidedly un-Biblical things like sex with a different hot stranger every night for a week until she runs away with her handsome prince the following week?
    Yeah but you said decidedly un-Biblical.
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    Eh, just ask someone else to offend her on your behalf by saying that you think that's crazy. That's usually my role with my ISFJ girlfriend, I'm sure you have someone in your life that could fill that niche.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Eh, just ask someone else to offend her on your behalf by saying that you think that's crazy. That's usually my role with my ISFJ girlfriend, I'm sure you have someone in your life that could fill that niche.
    I don't want anyone to offend her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Giggly View Post
    I don't want anyone to offend her.
    I think its nice that you want to support your friend
    All for ourselves, and nothing for other people, seems, in every age of the world, to have been the vile maxim of the masters of mankind.
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    whether or not you credit psychoanalysis itself, the fact remains that we all must, to the greatest extent possible, understand one another's minds as our own; the very survival of humanity has always depended on it. - Open Culture

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    Tell her what you're thinking/ feeling. State your case in a friendly but firm manner.

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