Mole
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I am moving from scarcity to plenty, but I keep the old habits an scarcity and am slowly learning the new habits of plenty.
For instance in scarcity I had few friends and so operated under the rubric of, "nothing human is foreign to me". Friends were scarce and one needed to husband them.
But today I have fifty-five friends on this site alone. And of the fifty-five, I have only asked one to be my friend. The rest came unbidden, like manna from heaven.
I have plenty of friends. So rather than husband them, I can be profligate. I can let go friend after friend and still have plenty of friends.
In other words in a state of plenty, I need to learn to discriminate.
I have no need to go looking for friends, they arrive by themselves every day. So I need to suss them out and decide whether to keep them or put them in the Ignore basket.
At the present moment I am so rich in friends I can afford to keep thirty-three in the Ignore basket.
When I lived in the mindset of scarcity, I worried when I was attacked ad hominem because it meant I could lose a friend.
But now in my mindset of plenty, I put all the ad hominems into the Ignore basket without a second thought.
Under scarcity I thought nothing human is foreign to me, and under plenty I find there much that is foreign to me, and it goes into the Ignore basket.
For instance in scarcity I had few friends and so operated under the rubric of, "nothing human is foreign to me". Friends were scarce and one needed to husband them.
But today I have fifty-five friends on this site alone. And of the fifty-five, I have only asked one to be my friend. The rest came unbidden, like manna from heaven.
I have plenty of friends. So rather than husband them, I can be profligate. I can let go friend after friend and still have plenty of friends.
In other words in a state of plenty, I need to learn to discriminate.
I have no need to go looking for friends, they arrive by themselves every day. So I need to suss them out and decide whether to keep them or put them in the Ignore basket.
At the present moment I am so rich in friends I can afford to keep thirty-three in the Ignore basket.
When I lived in the mindset of scarcity, I worried when I was attacked ad hominem because it meant I could lose a friend.
But now in my mindset of plenty, I put all the ad hominems into the Ignore basket without a second thought.
Under scarcity I thought nothing human is foreign to me, and under plenty I find there much that is foreign to me, and it goes into the Ignore basket.