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Karen Horney's Three Conflicts - Which Type Are You? Etc.

Lord Lavender

Bluered Trickster
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EVLF
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so/sp
Aggressive then Withdrawn then Complaint.
 

Lark

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The thing about this is that you could be any of these types from one time to another, Horney at least talked about basic anxiety and neurotic trends as opposed to a sort of fixed neurosis or neuroticism and her work was a further departure from a sort of neurological scientism but I still think its got its flaws.

Also, apart from the fact that you could behave as one type from one time to another your own perceptions could be wildly off from that of others, or they same others could be lying for one reason or another from one time to another, so while I'd consider myself compliant or withdrawing, at least when I'm especially stressed, I know others who'd class me as aggressive, all the time, stress or no stress.

To be honest for about the last year or two I've found that I might feel and think as the aggressive type myself but behave as the other two because I struggle to see the point as most victories are Pyrrhic victories, a lot of the time all part of someone else's game, which you'd definitely not elect to be part of by choice.

Which is part of the reason why I dream of being independently wealthy or some other configuration coming about in my life which would truly put it within my gift to either voluntarily associate or more importantly disassociate from others.
 
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ISTJ
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None of them feels like me, but Aggressive would be the closest one I guess.
 

Totenkindly

@.~*virinaĉo*~.@
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BELF
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sx/sp
Withdrawn (move away), then Compliant (move towards), then Aggressive (move against)


Life does demand you sometimes learn how to properly engage in new styles, however, than your natural preference.

About the last ten years of my life has been a lesson in judicial use of the Aggressive style. I don't particularly like it, but I know how to use it effectively.
 

Abcdenfp

Terpsichore
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MBTI Type
ENFP
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7W8
Withdrawn/agressive
I will remove myself not trusting you anymore and remove myself from the situation all together , go quiet until I resolve but if pushed , prodded or not left alone during this process I will respond harshly.
Some people do not perceive that I have withdrawn so they just see a lash out and that I'm agressive but there was a period before that where I removed myself even if just mentally from you
 

Seymour

Vaguely Precise
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Sep 22, 2009
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1,579
MBTI Type
INFP
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5w4
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sx/so
Withdrawn (as appropriate for a 5w4, much less 5-4-9).
 

deathwarmedup

New member
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416
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IXTJ
Enneagram
6w5
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sp/sx
Withdrawn.

Resignation and the Need for Freedom.

"Freedom, not to do anything, but from everything."

Her description captured something fundamental about myself that no other typology has pinpointed.
 

ChocolateMoose123

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Definitely aggressive stood out but I do see compliance also. Withdrawn is the least I relate to.
 

Morpeko

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LEFV
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sx/sp
Aggressive = Withdrawn (depends on my mood but they're about equal) > Compliant
 

RadicalDoubt

Alongside Questionable Clarity
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MBTI Type
TiSi
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9w1
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sp/so
Withdrawn and then... Maybe complaint? Neither complaint nor aggressive really resonate?
 

Typh0n

clever fool
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Aggressive resonates with me. The others, not so much.
 
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