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The Four Tendancies

Typh0n

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Rebel.

Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They act from a sense of choice, from freedom. Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”

They resist control, even self-control, and enjoy flouting rules and expectations. They sometimes frustrate others—and even themselves—because they resist any expectation, even one that’s self-imposed.

Rebels resist habits, but they can embrace habit-like behaviors by tying their actions to their choices and their identity.
 

Lady Elizabeth

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Rebel.

Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They act from a sense of choice, from freedom. Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”

They resist control, even self-control, and enjoy flouting rules and expectations. They sometimes frustrate others—and even themselves—because they resist any expectation, even one that’s self-imposed.

Rebels resist habits, but they can embrace habit-like behaviors by tying their actions to their choices and their identity.
 

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I recently came across kind of a cool quiz about habit formation that I wanted to share with you guys.
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What are your results? Were you surprised?
About to take test. I’m polar opposite of what I was just a few years ago...whatever that was.
 

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Obliger.

Obligers respond readily to outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. In other words, they work hard not to let other people down, but they often let themselves down.

Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves.

For Obligers, the key to forming habits is to create external accountability.

[MENTION=10082]Starry[/MENTION]
[MENTION=19719]Forever[/MENTION]
 

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Obliger.

Obligers respond readily to outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. In other words, they work hard not to let other people down, but they often let themselves down.

Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves.

For Obligers, the key to forming habits is to create external accountability.


[MENTION=10082]Starry[/MENTION]
[MENTION=19719]Forever[/MENTION]

Oh yeah that’s me often at times, it’s quite liberating when I satisfy myself
 

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Questioner.

Questioners question all expectations, and will meet an expectation only if they believe it’s justified, so in effect, they meet only inner expectations.

Once Questioners believe that a particular habit is worthwhile, they’ll stick to it—but only if they’re satisfied about the habit’s soundness and usefulness. They resist anything arbitrary or ineffective; they accept direction only from people they respect.

Questioners may exhaust themselves (and other people) with their relentless questioning, and they sometimes find it hard to act without perfect information.

If you’re thinking, “Well, right now I question the validity of the Four Tendencies framework,” yep, you’re probably a Questioner!
 

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Obligers respond readily to outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. In other words, they work hard not to let other people down, but they often let themselves down.

Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves.

For Obligers, the key to forming habits is to create external accountability.
 

neko 4

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I scored highest on the Rebel.
 

Luminous

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Questioner. No, not surprised.
 

Chad of the OttomanEmpire

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I got the Rebel. And God. How true. This is really a problem for me.
 

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Rebel, and not surprised.
 

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YOUR TENDENCY:
Obliger

“I do what I have to do. I don’t want to let others down, but I may let myself down.”

So what does it mean to be an Obliger?

Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. They’re motivated by external accountability; they wake up and think, “What must I do today?”

Obligers excel at meeting external demands and deadlines and go to great lengths to meet their responsibilities, so they make terrific colleagues, leaders, family members, and friends.

Others rely on them, but because Obligers resist inner expectations, it can be difficult for them to meet their aims for themselves, in the absence of external accountability—to work on a Ph.D. thesis, to attend networking events, to get their car serviced.

Obligers depend on external accountability, with consequences such as deadlines, late fees, or the fear of letting other people down.

In fact, Obligers need external accountability even for activities that they want to do. If you want to read more, join a book group.

When a person says, “I give 110% to my patients, so of course it’s impossible for me to exercise” or “Because I’m so busy meeting other people’s needs, I have no time for self-care” or “I’m always on the road managing five remote teams so all I can eat is fast food,” that’s an Obliger.

Behavior that Obligers sometimes attribute to self-sacrifice or lack of self-esteem—“Why do I always make time for other people’s priorities at the expense of my own?”—is often better explained as need for accountability.

The weight of outer expectations can make Obligers susceptible to burnout, because they often have trouble setting limits or telling people “no.” They may, in fact, reach the point of “Obliger-rebellion,” a striking pattern in which they abruptly refuse to meet an expectation. Obliger-rebellion may take a form that’s small and symbolic, like deliberately being late to work. Or Obliger-rebellion may be dramatic and far-reaching, like abruptly quitting a job, getting a divorce, or ending a long friendship, with the feeling, “I’ve had it. This is over. You’re dead to me.”

Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, without others’ oversight.

For Obligers, the Strategy of Accountability is the crucial strategy of habit formation. For instance, if you’re trying to exercise more, you might:

Hire a fitness trainer, coach, nutritionist, or other accountability partner
Team up with a friend who will be disappointed if you don’t follow through, or take a class with a teacher who will notice if you don’t participate
Consider yourself as a role model to children, employees, friends, and the like, to be an example of fulfilling commitments, showing respect for yourself, or modeling good behavior
Think about your duty to your future-self
 

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I am, the questioner. Totally no surprise there.
 

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I like how all the oblige people were obliged to post the actual descriptions of their tendencies. Lol it’s cute
 
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Questioner: “I do what I think is best, according to my judgment. If it doesn’t make sense, I won’t do it.”

Didn't really like that test. Tended to not like any of the answers too often
 

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Took it twice, and gave some different answers the second time thinking maybe the first wasn't accurate. Got Obliger both times. I didn't like it at first but that's because of how true it is. -_-

I find that because I like to take very little seriously outside of how much I get along with other people, I focus on the things other people take seriously to sort of compensate.
 

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Just took the test.

Rebel.
 
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