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The Four Tendencies Test

Lady Elizabeth

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The Four Tendencies Test: How Do You Respond to Pressure? ⋆ LonerWolf


Rebel

As a Rebel you resist being bossed around by anyone – including yourself. You are the type of person who likes to run wild and free without constraint. Anyone who tries to hold you back is not a welcome companion in your life.

Rebels are the minority group of the Four Tendencies. They are great at thinking outside of the box and doing whatever they put their minds to – provided that they don’t feel constrained by their own expectations.

Rebels also value individuality and authenticity. In work environments, this love for individuality gets Rebels in trouble because they hate conforming to the expectations of others. As such, Rebels excel in creative lines of work or fields that offer a lot of flexibility.

As a Rebel you aren’t persuaded by arguments such as “You have to do this,” “People are counting on you,” “It’s your duty,” “Your boss will be inconvenienced.” Instead, you will only act if you are convinced that you have freedom of choice. You take great pleasure in defying people’s expectations, and if you can prove someone wrong, you most certainly will!

The shadow side of the Rebel is the tendency to be excessively defiant, usually to their own detriment. Rebels can also be self-destructive, particularly when they defy their own dreams and expectations. Socially, Rebels can struggle to coexist harmoniously with others because they hate feeling trapped and controlled by obligations. Rebels also need to feel like they’re the ones making decisions as they don’t handle direct orders very well.

As a Rebel, you would benefit from reframing situations such as “I freely choose this. This is what I want.”

Overall, you are a strong-willed, unconventional, and free-spirited person. You are a force of nature who can do anything you put your mind to, so long as you don’t feel trapped by your own, or other’s, expectations.

Motto: I do what I want, when I want.
Tendency: To reject inner and outer expectations.

Guidance: Channel your defiance into creative pursuits. Let others know about your personality style and your need for freedom to prevent misunderstandings. Find a cause or something to fight for (and against!) – if you want to, of course!
 

Verona

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Questioner

As a Questioner, your main objective is to ask “why?” It is not enough for people to hand you a platter of beliefs, goals, and ideals – you have to understand why these targets are worthy of pursuing in the first place. Your ruthless determination to align other’s expectations with your inner truth makes you an insightful, and at times intimidating, person.

You are a person that does only what makes sense to you. If forced to behave contrary to what you think is logical or meaningful, you may grow deeply unhappy or even resentful. As a person who highly values innovation, you feel repelled by old, inane, and senseless rules or ways of living.

In your work field, for example, you are a person who likes to spot ways in which procedures can be transformed. If there’s a better way of doing something, you are quick to point it out and encourage others to change direction for their own benefit. Unfortunately, sometimes your attempt to change the way people do things is seen as insubordination. As such, you might be the type of person who frequently gets into trouble with bosses and other authority figures who perceive you as “not being a team player.”

However, as a Questioner you bring freshness to any field that is willing to grow and innovate. You best suit research and entrepreneurial fields or companies that value creating cutting-edge products and services. In these fields, you shine the most and get to use your questioning talents to the fullest.

The shadow side of the Questioner is the tendency to come across as rough, harsh, and even exhausting. Questioners also (ironically) don’t like being questioned by other people as they see it as an affront to their own carefully analyzed decisions. As a result, Questioners may seem arrogant and bullheaded as they have no problem questioning others, but struggle to accept others questioning them.

Questioners also struggle frequently with analysis paralysis, i.e. the inability to make quick decisions. If you spend days researching what type of microwave you should buy, you can be sure that you’re stuck in a typical Questioner battle.

Overall, as a Questioner you are an astute, sharp, logical, and freethinking person.

Motto: Convince me and then I’ll believe you.

Tendency: To uphold inner expectations and reject external expectations.

Advice: Find a field that suits your talents. Be careful of egotism. Be mindful of other people’s emotions. Learn how to compromise in ways that respect yourself and others.
 

Norexan

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I get... Upholder :shrug:

As an Upholder, you are a reliable and stable person who has no trouble meeting deadlines and keeping commitments. You have a strong sense of obligation and will uphold the expectations of other people and yourself easily. However, while you are a responsible and hard-working person, you do have the tendency to burn yourself out quickly. Your tendency to sustain strict self-discipline can make you rigid and austere. This inflexibility, when taken to the extreme, can create stubbornness and the inability to be spontaneous and enjoy life.

As a conscientious self-starter, you don’t need anyone to micromanage you, and as such, you would make a great leader. You are an organized person who is fond of to-do lists and schedules, and enjoys an orderly environment. As such, you feel the most stressed out in unstructured environments where the expectations are not clear.

The shadow side of being an Upholder is your tendency to reject change or anything that threatens to interfere with your routine. “Don’t fix what ain’t broken” may be an unspoken belief you carry, particularly when others want to shake things up and mess around with your carefully planned systems. Because of your eagerness to uphold the expectations that others direct at you, you also might follow rules without questioning them, which might be destructive to your wellbeing or that of others.

When it comes to forming and keeping habits, you are exceptional. You have no problem keeping commitments that you make to yourself. However, unlike others who quickly abandon responsibilities or duties (like trying to keep a new diet), you may experience something called tightening. In other words, through time, your strict enforcement of a responsibility might become stronger and stronger through time. For example, if you start a diet, you may struggle with rigidity as the habit strengthens and find it hard to be flexible.
As a conscientious person, you can also become intensely frustrated when you make a mistake or fail at completing a task. Beating yourself up or becoming angry at others who don’t keep their commitments may be your default reaction.

Overall, you are a trustworthy person who provides a stable presence for other people.

Motto: Discipline equals freedom.
Tendency: To uphold inner and outer expectations.
Advice: Learn to be flexible. Take regular breaks to avoid burning yourself out. Ensure people clearly express their expectations to you to avoid stress. Don’t be afraid to question the expectations of others.
 
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As a Questioner, your main objective is to ask “why?” It is not enough for people to hand you a platter of beliefs, goals, and ideals – you have to understand why these targets are worthy of pursuing in the first place. Your ruthless determination to align other’s expectations with your inner truth makes you an insightful, and at times intimidating, person.

You are a person that does only what makes sense to you. If forced to behave contrary to what you think is logical or meaningful, you may grow deeply unhappy or even resentful. As a person who highly values innovation, you feel repelled by old, inane, and senseless rules or ways of living.

In your work field, for example, you are a person who likes to spot ways in which procedures can be transformed. If there’s a better way of doing something, you are quick to point it out and encourage others to change direction for their own benefit. Unfortunately, sometimes your attempt to change the way people do things is seen as insubordination. As such, you might be the type of person who frequently gets into trouble with bosses and other authority figures who perceive you as “not being a team player.”

However, as a Questioner you bring freshness to any field that is willing to grow and innovate. You best suit research and entrepreneurial fields or companies that value creating cutting-edge products and services. In these fields, you shine the most and get to use your questioning talents to the fullest.

The shadow side of the Questioner is the tendency to come across as rough, harsh, and even exhausting. Questioners also (ironically) don’t like being questioned by other people as they see it as an affront to their own carefully analyzed decisions. As a result, Questioners may seem arrogant and bullheaded as they have no problem questioning others, but struggle to accept others questioning them.

Questioners also struggle frequently with analysis paralysis, i.e. the inability to make quick decisions. If you spend days researching what type of microwave you should buy, you can be sure that you’re stuck in a typical Questioner battle.

Overall, as a Questioner you are an astute, sharp, logical, and freethinking person.

Motto: Convince me and then I’ll believe you.

Tendency: To uphold inner expectations and reject external expectations.

Advice: Find a field that suits your talents. Be careful of egotism. Be mindful of other people’s emotions. Learn how to compromise in ways that respect yourself and others.
 

PumpkinMayCare

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Upholder

As an Upholder, you are a reliable and stable person who has no trouble meeting deadlines and keeping commitments. You have a strong sense of obligation and will uphold the expectations of other people and yourself easily. However, while you are a responsible and hard-working person, you do have the tendency to burn yourself out quickly. Your tendency to sustain strict self-discipline can make you rigid and austere. This inflexibility, when taken to the extreme, can create stubbornness and the inability to be spontaneous and enjoy life.

As a conscientious self-starter, you don’t need anyone to micromanage you, and as such, you would make a great leader. You are an organized person who is fond of to-do lists and schedules, and enjoys an orderly environment. As such, you feel the most stressed out in unstructured environments where the expectations are not clear.

The shadow side of being an Upholder is your tendency to reject change or anything that threatens to interfere with your routine. “Don’t fix what ain’t broken” may be an unspoken belief you carry, particularly when others want to shake things up and mess around with your carefully planned systems. Because of your eagerness to uphold the expectations that others direct at you, you also might follow rules without questioning them, which might be destructive to your wellbeing or that of others.

When it comes to forming and keeping habits, you are exceptional. You have no problem keeping commitments that you make to yourself. However, unlike others who quickly abandon responsibilities or duties (like trying to keep a new diet), you may experience something called tightening. In other words, through time, your strict enforcement of a responsibility might become stronger and stronger through time. For example, if you start a diet, you may struggle with rigidity as the habit strengthens and find it hard to be flexible.

As a conscientious person, you can also become intensely frustrated when you make a mistake or fail at completing a task. Beating yourself up or becoming angry at others who don’t keep their commitments may be your default reaction.

Overall, you are a trustworthy person who provides a stable presence for other people.

Motto: Discipline equals freedom.
Tendency: To uphold inner and outer expectations.
Advice: Learn to be flexible. Take regular breaks to avoid burning yourself out. Ensure people clearly express their expectations to you to avoid stress. Don’t be afraid to question the expectations of others.
 

Maou

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Obliger

As an Obliger, you are a caring person who always puts the needs of others first. However, while you have no problem going the extra mile for others, you struggle to meet your own needs.

Your eagerness to help others and meet their expectations makes you a solid and reliable person. People may think of you as their “rock” in times of need because you are always there to lend a helping hand.
The difficulty with being an Obliger is that, while you are happy doing things for others, you rarely dedicate time to doing things for yourself. This tendency to meet other’s needs but deny your own causes you to become a self-denying Martyr. You may even feel selfish when you focus on yourself, which reaffirms your tendency of self-neglect.

When it comes to work and relationships, you have no trouble meeting deadlines or fulfilling the demands of others. But when you’re alone, you often lack the motivation to fulfill your own needs, goals, and dreams. Issues such as low self-esteem can all contribute to your tendency to oblige other’s needs but ignore your own.

You are the type of person to work overtime (even with no pay) in order to help out your colleagues. You give a lot and don’t expect much in return apart from the occasional “thank you” or expression of gratitude.

The dark side of being an Obliger is that you tend to feel a lot of shame. This shame prevents you from speaking up about your needs and rights and keeps you silent. You also tend to hold in a lot of frustration, particularly when you are taken for granted or treated unfairly by others. Through time, this frustration may build and eventually explode into extreme actions such as exploding at your boss, quitting your job or leaving a relationship abruptly.

In order to prevent yourself feeling used by others, you need to learn how to set healthy boundaries and listen to your needs. Because you respond to external expectations rather than internal expectations, you would benefit from finding external ways of internally motivating yourself. For example, if you want to lose weight, join a gym that charges fees. If you want to learn how to meditate, sign up to a local class or online course.

Overall, as an Obliger you are a helpful, caring, and reliable person who would benefit from setting clear boundaries and taking time to take care of yourself as well as others.

Motto: Your wish is my command.
Tendency: To reject inner expectations and uphold external expectations.
Advice: Set clear boundaries and learn how to say “no” respectfully. Channel your frustration in a healthy way. Identify your needs. Seek external ways to reinforce your internal desires and aspirations
 

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Rebel

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I suspect with only 6 questions, that I'll get a different result on a different day.
 

Saturnal Snowqueen

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Questioner

As a Questioner, your main objective is to ask “why?” It is not enough for people to hand you a platter of beliefs, goals, and ideals – you have to understand why these targets are worthy of pursuing in the first place. Your ruthless determination to align other’s expectations with your inner truth makes you an insightful, and at times intimidating, person.

You are a person that does only what makes sense to you. If forced to behave contrary to what you think is logical or meaningful, you may grow deeply unhappy or even resentful. As a person who highly values innovation, you feel repelled by old, inane, and senseless rules or ways of living.

In your work field, for example, you are a person who likes to spot ways in which procedures can be transformed. If there’s a better way of doing something, you are quick to point it out and encourage others to change direction for their own benefit. Unfortunately, sometimes your attempt to change the way people do things is seen as insubordination. As such, you might be the type of person who frequently gets into trouble with bosses and other authority figures who perceive you as “not being a team player.”

However, as a Questioner you bring freshness to any field that is willing to grow and innovate. You best suit research and entrepreneurial fields or companies that value creating cutting-edge products and services. In these fields, you shine the most and get to use your questioning talents to the fullest.

The shadow side of the Questioneris the tendency to come across as rough, harsh, and even exhausting. Questioners also (ironically) don’t like being questioned by other people as they see it as an affront to their own carefully analyzed decisions. As a result, Questioners may seem arrogant and bullheaded as they have no problem questioning others, but struggle to accept others questioning them.

Questioners also struggle frequently with analysis paralysis, i.e. the inability to make quick decisions. If you spend days researching what type of microwave you should buy, you can be sure that you’re stuck in a typical Questioner battle.

Overall, as a Questioner you are an astute, sharp, logical, and freethinking person.

Motto: Convince me and then I’ll believe you.

Tendency: To uphold inner expectations and reject external expectations.

Advice: Find a field that suits your talents. Be careful of egotism. Be mindful of other people’s emotions. Learn how to compromise in ways that respect yourself and others.
 

The Cat

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I keep reading the four tentacles.
 

Greed

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upholder. to be honest, i'm not a good one by any means. wish i could say differently.
 

Zhaylin

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Another Obliger here.
 

cacaia

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Upholder, though I don't ( usually) break down when my plans are thwarted😁
 

Morpeko

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Questioner

As a Questioner, your main objective is to ask “why?” It is not enough for people to hand you a platter of beliefs, goals, and ideals – you have to understand why these targets are worthy of pursuing in the first place. Your ruthless determination to align other’s expectations with your inner truth makes you an insightful, and at times intimidating, person.

You are a person that does only what makes sense to you. If forced to behave contrary to what you think is logical or meaningful, you may grow deeply unhappy or even resentful. As a person who highly values innovation, you feel repelled by old, inane, and senseless rules or ways of living.

In your work field, for example, you are a person who likes to spot ways in which procedures can be transformed. If there’s a better way of doing something, you are quick to point it out and encourage others to change direction for their own benefit. Unfortunately, sometimes your attempt to change the way people do things is seen as insubordination. As such, you might be the type of person who frequently gets into trouble with bosses and other authority figures who perceive you as “not being a team player.”

However, as a Questioner you bring freshness to any field that is willing to grow and innovate. You best suit research and entrepreneurial fields or companies that value creating cutting-edge products and services. In these fields, you shine the most and get to use your questioning talents to the fullest.

The shadow side of the Questioneris the tendency to come across as rough, harsh, and even exhausting. Questioners also (ironically) don’t like being questioned by other people as they see it as an affront to their own carefully analyzed decisions. As a result, Questioners may seem arrogant and bullheaded as they have no problem questioning others, but struggle to accept others questioning them.

Questioners also struggle frequently with analysis paralysis, i.e. the inability to make quick decisions. If you spend days researching what type of microwave you should buy, you can be sure that you’re stuck in a typical Questioner battle.

Overall, as a Questioner you are an astute, sharp, logical, and freethinking person.

Motto: Convince me and then I’ll believe you.

Tendency: To uphold inner expectations and reject external expectations.

Advice: Find a field that suits your talents. Be careful of egotism. Be mindful of other people’s emotions. Learn how to compromise in ways that respect yourself and others.
 
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