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The Four Tendencies

OrangeAppled

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Questioner.

I see myself as needing external motivation to form new habits, but maybe that's only if I've already accepted it as reasonable. Obliger seems to be my opposite, so I guess I couldn't be a blend. I do tend to ignore pressure to do stuff I haven't determined is reasonable or right for me.
 

prplchknz

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Obliger.


Obligers respond readily to outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. In other words, they work hard not to let other people down, but they often let themselves down.

Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves.

For Obligers, the key to forming habits is to create external accountability.
 

á´…eparted

passages
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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Upholder.

Though I see myself as a hybrid between Upholder and Obliger, partially because the second someone else depends on me, I become WAY more anal about making it to the end.
 

senza tema

nunc rosa cras fex
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Got rebel but could also see questioner.
 

Daenera

Rogue heart
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My dominant Tendency is Questioner.

Not surprising, considering my childhood. My least favorite thing to hear was "Because I said so" or "Because I'm the mother". Even at a young age, I was like, "That's not a reason at all!"

How can any of those be considered arguments is beyond me. You hear something like that and that's the moment you switch from questioner to rebel tendency.:cowboy:
 

Daenera

Rogue heart
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[*]Rebel doesn't give a flying flip about any expectations at all.

Rebels be all like:

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Golden_Cherry

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Rebel.

I thought I would get Obliger. I guess the reason is because I generally don't feel inconvenienced enough by expectations to challenge them, but if I really didn't feel like doing something and I thought it was unnecessary or petty, I agree that I would probably make a bit of a fuss, but I've learned to suck it up if it would make my life easier. However, if I felt indebted to the person or held him/her in high regard, then I'd follow through willingly. This assumes I am not being taken advantage of and that there is no additional incentive for me. If I am personally entrusted by someone for my capabilities rather than my availability, I feel more motivated to oblige.
 

Mane

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Questioner.

Questioners question all expectations, and will meet an expectation only if they believe it’s justified, so in effect, they meet only inner expectations.

Once Questioners believe that a particular habit is worthwhile, they’ll stick to it—but only if they’re satisfied about the habit’s soundness and usefulness. They resist anything arbitrary or ineffective; they accept direction only from people they respect.

Questioners may exhaust themselves (and other people) with their relentless questioning, and they sometimes find it hard to act without perfect information.

If you’re thinking, “Well, right now I question the validity of the Four Tendencies framework,” yep, you’re probably a Questioner!

- Touche, I was doing just that.
 

Kierva

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My dominant Tendency is Questioner.

Not surprising, considering my childhood. My least favorite thing to hear was "Because I said so" or "Because I'm the mother". Even at a young age, I was like, "That's not a reason at all!"

Same.
 

NAPSTABLOOK22

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Rebel.

Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They act from a sense of choice, from freedom. Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”

They resist control, even self-control, and enjoy flouting rules and expectations. They sometimes frustrate others—and even themselves—because they resist any expectation, even one that’s self-imposed.

Rebels resist habits, but they can embrace habit-like behaviors by tying their actions to their choices and their identity.
 

Verona

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Questioner

Questioners question all expectations, and will meet an expectation only if they believe it’s justified, so in effect, they meet only inner expectations.

Once Questioners believe that a particular habit is worthwhile, they’ll stick to it—but only if they’re satisfied about the habit’s soundness and usefulness. They resist anything arbitrary or ineffective; they accept direction only from people they respect.

Questioners may exhaust themselves (and other people) with their relentless questioning, and they sometimes find it hard to act without perfect information.

If you’re thinking, “Well, right now I question the validity of the Four Tendencies framework,” yep, you’re probably a Questioner!
 

Hawthorne

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I could've sworn I had taken this before?

Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike. They act from a sense of choice, from freedom. Rebels wake up and think, “What do I want to do today?”

They resist control, even self-control, and enjoy flouting rules and expectations. They sometimes frustrate others—and even themselves—because they resist any expectation, even one that’s self-imposed.

Rebels resist habits, but they can embrace habit-like behaviors by tying their actions to their choices and their identity.
 

Amargith

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Rebel.


I hate expectation.

Pleasant surprises, helping out others and fun exploration, otoh :wubbie:


Rebels resist habits, but they can embrace habit-like behaviors by tying their actions to their choices and their identity.

I need to get this tattooed on the inside of my eyelids, as Z would say.
 
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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Questioner.


Questioners question all expectations, and will meet an expectation only if they believe it’s justified, so in effect, they meet only inner expectations.

Once Questioners believe that a particular habit is worthwhile, they’ll stick to it—but only if they’re satisfied about the habit’s soundness and usefulness. They resist anything arbitrary or ineffective; they accept direction only from people they respect.

Questioners may exhaust themselves (and other people) with their relentless questioning, and they sometimes find it hard to act without perfect information.

If you’re thinking, “Well, right now I question the validity of the Four Tendencies framework,” yep, you’re probably a Questioner!


Pretty accurate, I always asked a lot of questions as opposed to finding fault with things, I'm just curious.
 

Norexan

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According to your answers, your dominant Tendency is Upholder.


Upholders respond readily to both outer and inner expectations: they meet deadlines and keep New Year’s resolutions without much struggle or supervision.

Upholders take great satisfaction from moving smoothly through their daily schedule and their to-do lists. They meet others’ expectations—and their expectations for themselves.

However, Upholders may feel uneasy when expectations aren’t clear, when they’re worried that they’re breaking the rules, or when they feel overwhelmed by expectations they seek to meet.

They enjoy habits, and form habits fairly easily.

Ahahahahhaha.... O boy... :shock:
 

Morpeko

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