Male extroverts especially pick up artists are confident and successful with girls or relationships. Introverts are shy as Oxford and Cambridge dictionaries define them as "A shy, reticent person." and "someone who is shy, quiet, and unable to make friends easily". Being a male and INTJ you just can't get girls because you're not socially confident. Girls don't have this problem. As normally girls get hit on by guys and the guy approaches her.
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07-10-2018, 01:42 PM #1
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It's better to be a female INTJ than a male one.
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07-10-2018, 04:51 PM #2
Why do you want to be a pick up artist?
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07-10-2018, 05:44 PM #3
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PUAs are misguided. Your time might be better spent reading some classics. I suggest starting with Plato, Marcus Aurelius and Jung.
Women are great, but don’t put the pussy on a pedestal.
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07-10-2018, 06:00 PM #4
LOL INTJs are not fascinating with Se things but Fi things. So I don't see any problem since they don't look at life in this way.
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07-10-2018, 08:15 PM #5
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I don't think being a male and an extrovert makes you a pick up artist. I know plenty of extroverted guys who don't strike me that way. Most don't actually. And some can actually be pretty bad at pick ups.
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07-10-2018, 09:30 PM #6
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Avoid all the silly, manipulative tricks of PUA. They won't help you gain comfortable social confidence. All you need is learn how to talk to women, as if they're individuals, not things to be acquired.
A few years ago, to shake up my life and to test the angsting of males in cyberspace about how hard it was to approach, I tried it one night with a couple of friends. The first approach made me so nervous (notice how it was my problem, not theirs?) but after that, it was a cake walk. I ended up with a lot of phone numbers that night without playing any games, telling them upfront what I was doing. One guy was so amused by it all, he made all his friends give me their numbers too.
So don't be afraid people. It's only yourself preventing yourself.
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07-11-2018, 08:35 AM #7
You know what's funny? You're looking at men and women as if they are two different species, and while there are certainly some differences that can be measured by observing patterns, it's not as remarkable a rift as you think.
Take for example this forum; you have no idea the genders of some members and could be sorely mistaken if you assume by name or avatar, for example. It could take you ages to realize the man you've been conversing with is actually a woman, or vice versa.
Or maybe Asynartetic summarized it more simply when he said "don't put the pussy up on a pedestal".
That is exactly what you are doing...dead·pan
/ˈded,pan/
adjective: deliberately impassive or expressionless.
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07-11-2018, 08:48 AM #8
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07-11-2018, 09:23 AM #9
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Stop looking at the ideal.
I'm not saying look at women as objects or prizes either.
"separate the individual from the ideal"
that sweater.
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07-11-2018, 09:46 AM #10
Is this a dupe thread, an obsession with PUA or what?
As normally girls get hit on by guys and the guy approaches her.Luminous liked this post
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