I've met this INTP guy on a dating site and we immediately hit it off. We clicked and just after a few days we both know we like each other very much. He's the one who first opened up that he really likes me and he feels like falling in love, and I told him I feel the same way. But things start falling apart when I discovered that he lied to me about his past relationship after 2months of talking with each other. We talked about it, I forgave him, but I asked for some time away so I can think things through about us. I was quite disappointed because he lied to me and it's hard for me to trust people. After a week, I reached out to him and we talked again but I can't figure out why after that he started pulling away from me. He's not texting me everyday anymore, he seemed distant and cold, and it felt like he's really drifting apart.
I asked him if he doesn't want me anymore but he said his feelings never changed. But I was deeply hurt by the way he's acting towards me so I informed him that I'll delete my whatsapp so that I won't bother him anymore, he didn't protest but he said he doesn't want us to stop being friends on social media because he'll really miss me.
After that, we still reached out to each other from time to time, not everyday but almost just once a week. He's still open to me about his feelings when I ask him questions, and he still answers me right away and directly. But he told me he's seeing someone else but he isn't sure if the girl likes him. I was hurt but I remained calm and asked him if does that mean he doesn't have feelings for me anymore and he said he still feels the same for me. When I asked him how does he feel about me he said he feel love for me. I asked him if he loves the girl and he said "Nope". He called me after that and told me stories about the books he read and he also explained his feelings towards me. He said, Non-Verbatim: "I really really feel love for you that's why I don't want to hurt you. I am seeing someone else but that doesn't mean I don't have feelings for you."
Now, we're still communicating with each other but not everyday anymore. In total, we've known each other for about 4 months. I'm still hurting especially when I imagine that he is seeing that girl in person because they're in the same country while I am far away. I asked him yesterday if his feelings have changed but he said it didn't change. He is from Mexico but he said he's going back to the US for a 3months vacation and after that he's flying here to the Philippines to meet me in person and that he's serious about that.
I am really confused now. I wanted to let him go because I am feeling confused and miserable. But a part of me don't want to let go because I am always thinking that maybe he is just being an INTP who is always confused with emotions and feelings as well. So I am hoping that you can give me advice. Sorry for a very long post.
I asked him if he doesn't want me anymore but he said his feelings never changed. But I was deeply hurt by the way he's acting towards me so I informed him that I'll delete my whatsapp so that I won't bother him anymore, he didn't protest but he said he doesn't want us to stop being friends on social media because he'll really miss me.
After that, we still reached out to each other from time to time, not everyday but almost just once a week. He's still open to me about his feelings when I ask him questions, and he still answers me right away and directly. But he told me he's seeing someone else but he isn't sure if the girl likes him. I was hurt but I remained calm and asked him if does that mean he doesn't have feelings for me anymore and he said he still feels the same for me. When I asked him how does he feel about me he said he feel love for me. I asked him if he loves the girl and he said "Nope". He called me after that and told me stories about the books he read and he also explained his feelings towards me. He said, Non-Verbatim: "I really really feel love for you that's why I don't want to hurt you. I am seeing someone else but that doesn't mean I don't have feelings for you."
Now, we're still communicating with each other but not everyday anymore. In total, we've known each other for about 4 months. I'm still hurting especially when I imagine that he is seeing that girl in person because they're in the same country while I am far away. I asked him yesterday if his feelings have changed but he said it didn't change. He is from Mexico but he said he's going back to the US for a 3months vacation and after that he's flying here to the Philippines to meet me in person and that he's serious about that.
I am really confused now. I wanted to let him go because I am feeling confused and miserable. But a part of me don't want to let go because I am always thinking that maybe he is just being an INTP who is always confused with emotions and feelings as well. So I am hoping that you can give me advice. Sorry for a very long post.
