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Do you analyze your feelings?

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I had a discussion with my INFP bf last night, and it turns out that he doesn't analyze his feelings because "it's not what they're for". He just experiences them. I will analyze feelings to death but don't usually like just feeling or paying attention to them.
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emotions are the insturment panel of the mind... sometimes it is easier to look away when it is malfunctioning, but it is likely best to have more information... through emotions one can trouble shoot both the internal and external problems one experiences, but they aren't the "end all, be all" that some seem to treat them as...

 

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Yes I do, I always analyze my feelings and the feelings of other people around me.

Why? It's because I believe feelings are not something that one should remain ignorant about as they play a huge role in our existence and day to day decision making, it also makes it easier to understand when someone is having a hard time and why they are having a hard time, making it easier to offer emotional support and/or help with solving the problem depending on the situation. Also, it's entertaining to try and decipher what other people are thinking based on their feelings, good mental exercise and all that.

Sorry, I'm not sure on my type yet.
 

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All the time.
 

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My emotions are usually so straightforward to me that I don't see the point in analyzing them. I may as well analyze the color red (which some people do. . .) Also, analyzing a thing, especially a thing as intangible as emotion, alters the thing being analyzed, so I wouldn't expect analysis to give me much genuine insight into my emotions.
 
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Yes at times if I’m experiencing a relatively new situation with no prior data to reference. If your bf is like me he’s so aware of the origins of his emotions they don’t need to be analyzed, they’re part of the foundations of what makes him him. I know them well because I’m very deeply introspective. It’s a fascinating shock to me that lots of people aren’t deeply introspective. I remember talking with someone on here that’s very intelligent very insightful about the world around him but has practically zero self awareness. He found himself to be quite the enigma. It blows my mind. Different types I realize.

What I analyze is other people’s feelings. I try and cross reference them with that person’s history (what I might know of it) and their personality and between those things create an assessment of what they are experiencing at the moment. If I’m trying to assist them I also decide my best course of action in the framework provided and likely reaction scenarios are generated and what I think is the best choice is utilized. It’s all rapid fire analysis.

Hopefully that explains the process.
 

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Yes and no.

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emotions are the insturment panel of the mind... sometimes it is easier to look away when it is malfunctioning, but it is likely best to have more information... through emotions one can trouble shoot both the internal and external problems one experiences, but they aren't the "end all, be all" that some seem to treat them as...
This is a good way to put it. Emotions alert us to things we need to pay attention to. Our focus should be on those things rather than on the emotions themselves. E.g. once the gas guage has shown us we are low on fuel, we need to get to a gas station, not keep staring at it and watch the needle continue to fall.
 

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Only the strong negative ones. I verify if they're justified or not.
 

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This is a good way to put it. Emotions alert us to things we need to pay attention to. Our focus should be on those things rather than on the emotions themselves. E.g. once the gas guage has shown us we are low on fuel, we need to get to a gas station, not keep staring at it and watch the needle continue to fall.

That is a very Fe point of view...
Anyway ... I enjoy feelings as they are , Thinking alot about them is generally a waste of time.
 

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@Population: 1 pretty much summed it all up quite nicely, really. When I'm experiencing the emotion, I sort of feel AND analyze at the same time...like, I do so in a way that doesn't define or close off potential emotions from falling into other categories and allow them some room to breathe and exist. However, in the background, I'm also processing what known emotions this new emotion is connecting to and how this new experience fits in to what I already know of myself internally. When empathizing with other people, I approach emotion just as any other data point in that, they reside on the same plane as science or other facts I know of the world. I don't typically feel much of anything of how the other person is feeling unless they let me in and I can piece together bits and fragments of emotion based on the context they provide me. Even then, if I feel emotional towards their situation, I realize it's more of a perceived, shared emotion rather than feeling what the other person actually feels. Well...is that even possible though? I wouldn't think so :shrug:

Edit: Just wanted to add, wanna know how to get me to metaphorically punch you in the teeth? Ask me more than once, after I've told you politely, "I don't know yet", to what I'm feeling over a new situation, (friends and relatives that pestered me asking this question soon after my dad died, comes vividly to mind) and I will be massively irritated.

I'm constantly pulling in information from the outside world through perception, interaction, observation, that if someone were to even hint at what I'm feeling while I'm still trying to process those fresh emotions, it'll all start to feel muddled with excess tangents that don't lead anywhere when it comes time to analyzing those emotions.
 

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I will Analyze the negative ones or when I have conflicting emotions about something. Conflicting / multiple-things-going-on-and-factors can be a very tricky business. I'm often in a mixed emotion or multilayered state, though (ie not often is there only one emotion present), and I do find understanding the inner world / what's going on with me is extremely important - not only for myself but also it impacts how I respond to situations and other people. So yeah, having a handle on that is important.

Type = I'll be typed differently based on whatever system/method you use - I'm not very extreme on more than one facet. At this point it doesn't really matter, though I am an introvert. Not INxP though.
 

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Edit: Just wanted to add, wanna know how to get me to metaphorically punch you in the teeth? Ask me more than once, after I've told you politely, "I don't know yet", to what I'm feeling over a new situation, (friends and relatives that pestered me asking this question soon after my dad died, comes vividly to mind) and I will be massively irritated.

+10,000. Or being asked to talk about it before I've actually figured out wtf the issue may be or what my feelings actually are.
 

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I will Analyze the negative ones or when I have conflicting emotions about something. Conflicting / multiple-things-going-on-and-factors can be a very tricky business. I'm often in a mixed emotion or multilayered state, though (ie not often is there only one emotion present), and I do find understanding the inner world / what's going on with me is extremely important - not only for myself but also it impacts how I respond to situations and other people. So yeah, having a handle on that is important.

Type = I'll be typed differently based on whatever system/method you use - I'm not very extreme on more than one facet. At this point it doesn't really matter, though I am an introvert. Not INxP though.

This is a great point to make as I too find it to be true, in that I hardly ever feel "flat" with emotions. They always contain some 3 dimensionality to them, some spatial quality.
 

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I can't function if I don't. I have strong Psychosomatic reactions so I need to be on top of them.
 

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I analyze my feelings and already know most cause-and-effects that cause them inside my mind and experience. I also use my emotions to translate them into art. I figure it out rather fast, can analyze dreams quickly, and when I feel something I quickly know exactly why. In a few cases when I don't know right away then I do have to think about it for a while. I know my flaws and weaknesses also. I can fall into analysis loops when I know the cause-and-effect, but can't find a way out. In the cases I become overly-analytical there isn't a lot of new discovery, but more just a destructive negative loop the results from a lack of solution.

What does bother me is when people try to tell me to stop feeling, or show me that my emotion is absurd. I can already know it's absurd, but that doesn't make it stop anymore than knowing what caused my nausea can magically make it stop. When an emotion is absurd but persistent, it is because it has been triggered from an earlier experience for which it was a legitimate response. It's because some earlier damage is fired up in my mind, so even the absurd is absolutely real, but just out of context. Also, once the process of a really intense emotion starts, there is a physiological response that has to complete itself. It is absurd to think that can stop on a dime - like an anxiety attack. I can figure my own way out and don't like it when other people oversimplify it by just saying "stop", like that hasn't occurred to me or I wouldn't do that if it were an actual option. That is extremely patronizing.

I deal with emotional scars like someone missing a leg has to find ways to compensate to function as needed. I can't force myself to regrow a leg, but I can find ways to compensate and still get the job done, or I can decide something isn't worth the emotional trauma it will cause and not feel obligated just because someone else or society expects it of me.
 

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That is a very Fe point of view...
Anyway ... I enjoy feelings as they are , Thinking alot about them is generally a waste of time.
It is actually Te based, as it jumps quickly over the emotion/feeling to engage with the real world causes and effects.

Edit: Just wanted to add, wanna know how to get me to metaphorically punch you in the teeth? Ask me more than once, after I've told you politely, "I don't know yet", to what I'm feeling over a new situation, (friends and relatives that pestered me asking this question soon after my dad died, comes vividly to mind) and I will be massively irritated.
I can see where that would be annoying. On the other hand, asking me this at all will likely get a confused reaction from me, as I don't see the relevance; or a refusal to answer as it isn't any of your business.
 

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It is actually Te based, as it jumps quickly over the emotion/feeling to engage with the real world causes and effects.


I can see where that would be annoying. On the other hand, asking me this at all will likely get a confused reaction from me, as I don't see the relevance; or a refusal to answer as it isn't any of your business.


That is interesting , Fe/Te work very similar : get to the point no shit between.
Ti/Fi seek more deep knowledges.
 
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