Why do some people consider the INTP and INFJ relationship to be so ideal?
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Thread: The Golden Pair
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12-31-2017, 11:05 AM #1
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The Golden Pair
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12-31-2017, 11:22 AM #2
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I think I recall reading that many think that this is a better deal for the INTP, presumably because the INFJ will "boost" the INTP's inferior Fe, but the INFJ will not receive the same in regards to Se.
I do think this is a fair match though because of shared Ti (and I suppose Fe by default), and also complimentary (as in opposite) intuitive views.
I could see the INFJ getting irritated with the INTP over inferior Fe and PoLR Se stuff though, in theory at least.
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12-31-2017, 11:24 AM #3
The golden pair? I had some snarky innuendos I was going to use.
But, I’ll just show myself out.”The Future’s So Bright, I Gotta Wear Joo Janta 200 Super-Chromatic Peril Sensitive Sunglasses.”
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12-31-2017, 11:26 AM #4
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12-31-2017, 11:34 AM #5
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I don't think the stereotypical ENFP and INTJ are a good romantic match necessarily. Picture the whimsical and hyper ENFP 7 So/Sx and the serious and withdrawn INTJ 5 Sx/Sp as a couple. Even though they are complimentary instinctual flows, I just don't really see them lasting very long (in theory) because they'll constantly be moving in opposite directions.
But, if you took an ENFP 4w5 and an INTJ 5w4 with complimentary instincts, I think it could work quite well.Tiger Owl liked this post
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12-31-2017, 11:50 AM #6I like to rock n' roll all night and *part* of every day. I usually have errands... I can only rock from like 1-3.
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12-31-2017, 11:56 AM #7
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I’m a 9, my wife is probably a 4 or a 6w7
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12-31-2017, 12:05 PM #8
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Is she Sp-first? If not, I can't really see confusing a 4 for a 6w7. The envy in So and Sx 4s is pretty obvious to close intimates. It's less obvious with the Sp (countertype) but I think you'd still see a fair bit of sensitivity and occasional brief periods of "woe is me."
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12-31-2017, 12:14 PM #9
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I thought the formula was INxJ and ENxP (each x with opposing preferences)
While I thought to find some INTP women attractive. I don’t often see them as “the one”. I often think of being with INTP women as I think this could be a really cute relationship only then tend to find out she has this ocd tendencies and hate how I do everything so non-sensical. I’m like well it works right? (Aux Je) then she’ll be like no, the process matters just as much too! (Dom Ji)
Oh and an INFJ clashing with the inferior Fe. Ooh that can be tough.
So in theoretical terms. It actually may proven to be more difficult because she may enjoy the Fe I might give and may even turn her on. Too much of her shadow function being used turns her the wrong way and she can be so irrational contrast to the dominant thinking. Eh.....
And on the INFJ’s part they have secret wish fulfillment with their Se that their INTP will have to tell them to look elsewhere.
But this is all theoretical so I wouldn’t say they’re the golden pair (ENTP’s would be more optimal).
Imo I think INFJ and INTJ’s would be the golden pair but that’s just a speculation not even founded by experience.
So that’s my take.highlander liked this post
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12-31-2017, 02:55 PM #10
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LARK + any type, is a recipe for awesome if I'm honest.
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