How to use Te without being an asshole.

[SearchingforPeace]

Oh yes, ENFPs and their tertiary, the ol' Te hammer. The answer is, no, not at first. The thing is, when we start using it, it startles and scares people, and scares ourselves. And honestly, we're not very good at it, at first. But with practice you'll get better, you'll never have a Te scalpel, though.

But at least ENFPs can get better at using Te than IXFPs....

[Qlip]

But at least ENFPs can get better at using Te than IXFPs....

And thank god for that. Active Te coupled with Fi would be a nightmare; can you imagine what could happen if an INFP was dissatisfied with you for for not being a unicorn, and then actually, really, deciding to do something about it?

[Grand Admiral Crunch]

And thank god for that. Active Te coupled with Fi would be a nightmare; can you imagine what could happen if an INFP was dissatisfied with you for for not being a unicorn, and then actually, really, deciding to do something about it?

But at least ENFPs can get better at using Te than IXFPs....

^ assholes

[SearchingforPeace]

And thank god for that. Active Te coupled with Fi would be a nightmare; can you imagine what could happen if an INFP was dissatisfied with you for for not being a unicorn, and then actually, really, deciding to do something about it?

I know exactly what it is to be around a IXFP who is fully engaged in her weak Te.....it ain't pretty or fun to experience....

[Poki]

Is it possible to effectively use Te without coming across as an asshole?

I am an ENFP (with well-developed Te) and my father is an ENTJ. So I've been on the giving and receiving end of Te asshole-dom. Has anyone else noticed this about Te? Anyone have any tips on how to balance Te's need for effectiveness with the needs of the people around you?

Listen to zig ziglar. Lots of positive Te . An awesome motivational speaker.

[Madboot]

I have an ESTJ real estate agent thats not an ass hole. He has pretty much just accepted life is and people are crazy and laugh about it...not them. He gets upset, but its short lived as he resorts back to his laughing enjoying life self.

This is a large part of what I do. Also accepting that not everyone needs corrected/fixed even if I know they are wrong. It isn't my job to educate everyone around me. It my job to keep my own shit together.

[Poki]

This is a large part of what I do. Also accepting that not everyone needs corrected/fixed even if I know they are wrong. It isn't my job to educate everyone around me. It my job to keep my own shit together.

Not to mention not everyone has same priorities or desires. My dad has many times disagreed with me because he cared more about cons then i did or more about pros then i did. I never disagreed with out come, i just didnt care.

[Poki]

[ceecee]

This is a large part of what I do. Also accepting that not everyone needs corrected/fixed even if I know they are wrong. It isn't my job to educate everyone around me. It my job to keep my own shit together.

Yeah this was hard but necessary to accept. They can get their own shit together.

[Forever]

Make everything you command sound as if it were an option?

If not, know that they signed a contract lel.

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