Can anyone help me try to decode INTP crush behavior? help! so confused

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I am an INFJ female and I have a crazy odd attraction to an INTP at work for the past year. For some reason when I first saw him I had this unexplainable attraction, that insisted that for some reason I needed to meet him. Not sure if it’s my INFJ intuitiveness or some strange force but something told me I needed to talk to him. He’s not my usual type, or the kind of guy I would normally pay attention at all. The first time I approached him, it was to introduce myself because he was new at work and he is foreign and first time living in the US. Has lived in several countries for his job. We talked and had decent short conversation and all the sudden out of nowhere he left in mid conversation.. it was strange. I’ve tried approaching him saying hi and random funny/friendly comments every time I encountered him at work, at our lunch cafe, in the kitchen or elevator, wanting to get to know him because he seems like someone I would have a great time with. He has always been really quiet, and never looks at me in the eye or towards me at all.. Many times, I saw him in the parking lot and noticed he ran away from me, trying to avoid being stuck having to talk to me? Not sure if I intimidate him or he gets weird around me, but he’s pretty social towards others and very animated guy. There is something about me that he gets really weird with. Several months ago, we had a cocktail party at work, and we were drinking and for the first time he actually approached me and had a conversation amongst other coworkers and it was pretty fun. Then after the event, everything went back to the usual distant awkwardness. If I ran into him in the hallway, he would say hi but never look at me in the eye and sometimes even take a different door than me. He is not really a quiet guy in general, he’s actually known for being a little crazy and outspoken among his coworkers. He is smart and has a very good position at work. On certain occasions I’ve approached him asking him about his hobbies and he was actually pretty animated while discussing them, but still wouldn’t look at me in the face, and would find something to do with his hands or look at something else. Also, he never asks me about me, or my life etc. It’s always me asking him. I thought, maybe he likes me and he’s shy around me. I’ve noticed he looks at me often but from a distance always, and when I come say hi it’s all aqua turtle from there. Anyway, last week a few of us at work where having a lose conversation in the hallway, and I sometimes throw some sarcastic comments around and I said something along the words of “I do whatever I want” (just playing) then I heard some random “you go girl” comment come out of his mouth.. lol. It caught me off guard since he never talks to me and all the sudden throws sass to me in front of other people. So I decided to confront him later, and went to his office and asked him about it, in a fun laid back playful kind of way and I told him I was just surprised he said that to me because he never really talks to me much. Anyway, he didn’t say much about that, but we talked about other random stuff and laughed and were being playful and laid-back towards each other. The next day, I went over to talk to him about some questions I had, and for the first time ever he looked at me in the face/eyes when talking to me. I actually realized what color eyes he had for once, lol. Anyway, the conversation got a little sour though, no idea why, but he seemed very moody (again threw me off out of nowhere), and came off pretty rude and highly opinionated. We were talking about different cultures, since we are both from other countries, and he started saying negative things about Americans and how they are stupid, and how he would never live here for too long, and how he thought I was very Americanized (I’ve lived here for 16 years), and then said that he dated a girl from my country and how he thinks we are very high maintenance, and all this crap.. I was so confused, and couldn't understand why he was being so negative and judgmental for no reason at all. He seemed rebellious and was talking a lot which was very unusual and I was just wondering if he was in a bad mood. I didn’t really say a whole lot, I didn’t get mad either, I just stood there listening and kept it chill, but then I said Ok, smiled and left. It felt overwhelming, I mean to speak negative like that in a professional environment was a bit out of place. After that day, whenever I see him, I kind of just keep on with my business. He says hi, and has tried making small friendly talk when we run into each other, but I kind of keep it short. I sort of felt like a clarification would have been nice, but highly doubt he ever will.. It was just weird, it was like what the hell was that? The he acts like nothing ever happened, maybe he’s trying, I don’t know, but I don’t think it was cool for him to talk towards me like that, so I’m not sure if I should take it personally like he’s a jerk or what. Anyway, I’ll be glad to here any INTP’s opinions and perspective on this story. Thanks, and if you have questions of us INFJ females, ask!