Kheledon
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- Joined
- Oct 5, 2015
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- MBTI Type
- ENFJ
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- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
I had a three-year-relationship with a woman whom I now think was my conflictor type, i.e. the exact opposite (ISTp), and it became clear to me, rather quickly, that we were not a good match. I left her once when I moved away to another state for graduate school. She followed me, but once I left her the second time (to take a job in yet another state), she gave up the pursuit. It was not a good relationship.
That said, I am now in a 23-year-long relationship with my irrational supervisor, ISFp, and I haven't been able to escape from this one (though it has been a long, rough ride). Having children and enduring financial distress has made it difficult to make any significant change.
Presumably, according to Socionics theory, your best possible match, your dual, is opposite to you on the first three MBTI elements, but the same on the final one. My dual is ISTj, for example. I think there's merit in suggesting that opposites make good life-partners (because they can cover one another's weaknesses), but I agree that the last letter is essential. If you're a j, you will be much happier be with another j. If you're a p, you will be much happier with another p.
That said, I am now in a 23-year-long relationship with my irrational supervisor, ISFp, and I haven't been able to escape from this one (though it has been a long, rough ride). Having children and enduring financial distress has made it difficult to make any significant change.
Presumably, according to Socionics theory, your best possible match, your dual, is opposite to you on the first three MBTI elements, but the same on the final one. My dual is ISTj, for example. I think there's merit in suggesting that opposites make good life-partners (because they can cover one another's weaknesses), but I agree that the last letter is essential. If you're a j, you will be much happier be with another j. If you're a p, you will be much happier with another p.