i like Ti. it challenges me, and in a positive relationship where i actually empathize with and try to understand the other person (and feel open to it because i receive the same), it helps that part of me awaken. i am also willing to ask for teaching. for me, there's a difference between that and being controlled, and there's a difference between that and simply being separated yet symbiotic. i'd like the relationship to promote growth, which starts with both qualities of relationship and my own accountability to learn and take responsibility for my own path.
Se is more difficult. sometimes i feel some chemistry, but unless i'm willing to let go of my sense of who i am more, it doesn't go very far, because the part of myself i most identify with struggles to feel truly seen. not that Ne can see it in my own terms either, but the way they can pull a rabbit out of a hat is reassuring to me that our guesses are as good as it gets, and i'm willing to give up more as a result of this and just let myself fall into it sometimes (even if i don't trust it socio-cognitively, i can sometimes trust it relationship-wise and in terms of my lust for possibilities). it works best if i try to understand the assumptions made and really then try to reflect on my experience and try to trace the path through it. it also sometimes just provides a collision of small hunches that leads me to a place that i've never been before, which is addicting.
